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I (27F) married my husband (30M), 2 years ago
Admittedly, he comes from a lot of family wealth whereas I was middle class but still successful and educated and with a good career & able to stand on my own two feet. I live with his family in their very large home where we have our own space. Sometimes toe steeping occurs but I focus on our marriage and live my own life and don’t bother much with them if they have issues, luckily we have enough space to have private space as a couple

My SIL is getting married next month to someone she’s been engaged to for 3 years, my SIL doesn’t have a great career / education and her fiance also keeps opening and closing businesses, apparently earns 200k dollars from a young age but can’t buy a house yet, can’t buy his own car, and isn’t willing to spend on my SIL or even the wedding. He also wears fake designer a lot. Personally it doesn’t make sense. He has now since closed his business and it seems he struggles to hold a career down. He does not come from family money and they have a standard home where she will live with in laws too

My MIL / SIL have some sort of hate towards me for marrying into wealth whilst she has to go live somewhere where finances aren’t stable and may struggle for a long time. I know this through things my husband has said and also comments made by themselves, it seems they aren’t happy I have this life whilst she is going to have a different life , for that reason they find reasons to make my life difficult and cause issues in my marriage. I don’t feel the need to move out as I feel we have enough space here and I think these issues would be the same even if we did move out. But I don’t know why they act like I’m the reason she is marrying that guy? I didn’t tell her to marry him and it’s not my fault these are our lives. I believe in kismat and I believe nobody can take what’s yours in life from you, it’s just fate.

How do I stop them getting to me? I think it’s pure jealously whether it’s my finances, my life, my career etc

An example of what they do (petty shit) - SILs wedding shopping, my MIL didn’t let me buy expensive outfits whilst her and her daughter bought the best outfits. It’s like they want me to be second best to them. I just thought okay ? I guess I’ll just buy them myself no problem, which they weren’t happy with either. They wanted me to just wear standard outfits but fashion is everything to me, and I have very unique taste. It’s just petty

Hi guys

Earlier this year I was going through the hardest time of my life. My marriage was suffering due to in laws and I felt incredibly alone. The last 2 years were really hard for me.

As some background on my sibling, he has gone through tough times and many times I have been the only one there for him emotionally and have always gone out of my way to support him and make things better for him. I have genuinly always done my best and gone the extra mile even when he didn’t deserve it. Even during times like busy exam seasons for me I neglected my studies to help him during difficult times. I have done my best.

Anyways, earlier this year I had to get separated and move back to my parents home (where my brother lives too as he is not married yet). We’re both 25 as we are twins. I was a mess when I moved back home and it was the hardest time of my life. I stayed there for 5 months. In those 5 months, he did not ask me if I am okay even once. He would see me cry and ignore me, he didn’t do one thing that would show support to me or make me feel better. If anything he made me feel like a burden.

My parents were going to extend the house so I can have a space for myself as currently I had no bedroom. He stopped it and said nobody is doing anything to my house. He had no concern for where I would stay especially as I was seriously considering divorce at that point.

He would frequently swear at me over stupid things. Eg if I’m making my self lunch he would start swearing and saying how dare you not make it for me too. He swears so much and says the most disgusting things to not only me, but also my parents. It is vile. His ego is above the clouds, he recently became an engineer at a top firm (only because my parents paid 100k for his education at a top school and also paid the fee to join the company), and now he acts like he is on top of the world and everyone else is shit compared to him. Funny because if my parents didn’t give him the money, he wasn’t making it anywhere

Then came towards the end of my seperation. He started swearing at me again, and I pushed back and said who do you think you are etc, I threw his shirt from the ironing board to the floor because I was angry. I don’t swear. He then proceeded to call me names, say “ur a divorcee ur nothing anymore” , “ur a bitch”, he said to my parents “ur daughter is a whore” etc, and then came my last straw. He walked up to me, and spat in my face. How disgusting. From someone you have done so much for.

Since that moment, I packed all my things, and left to stay with my friend. And since then, I have reconciled with my husband and we are back living together again and things are going well touch wood.

I want nothing to do with my brother anymore. My parents still live with him and try and excuse his behaviour but I’m not doing it anymore. I’m done. I also have stopped speaking to my dad a lot too as he watched his son spit on his daughter’s face and did nothing.

It is unfortunate but I genuinely want nothing to do with them anymore. My mum supported me yes but even she tries to excuse him. I’m not tolerating this behaviour.

In the Indian culture, if your family are not with you it becomes hard for a daughter especially when navigating in laws. I haven’t told my husband any of it btw nor do I plan to, as I’m worried it’ll be used against me one day.

Since then, although I had issues with my in laws, I make more of an effort with his family including his mum and sister (who have in the past been not nice to me either), however one thing I can say is nobody on my husbands family was ever abusive to me.

What are your opinions? Please tell me I have not overreacted here as I am to this day so SICK of what I had to go through by people I did the world for. After that, I want nothing to do with that person

Hi guys

Earlier this year I was going through the hardest time of my life. My marriage was suffering due to in laws and I felt incredibly alone. The last 2 years were really hard for me.

As some background on my sibling, he has gone through tough times and many times I have been the only one there for him emotionally and have always gone out of my way to support him and make things better for him. I have genuinly always done my best and gone the extra mile even when he didn’t deserve it. Even during times like busy exam seasons for me I neglected my studies to help him during difficult times. I have done my best.

Anyways, earlier this year I had to get separated and move back to my parents home (where my brother lives too as he is not married yet). We’re both 25 as we are twins. I was a mess when I moved back home and it was the hardest time of my life. I stayed there for 5 months. In those 5 months, he did not ask me if I am okay even once. He would see me cry and ignore me, he didn’t do one thing that would show support to me or make me feel better. If anything he made me feel like a burden.

My parents were going to extend the house so I can have a space for myself as currently I had no bedroom. He stopped it and said nobody is doing anything to my house. He had no concern for where I would stay especially as I was seriously considering divorce at that point.

He would frequently swear at me over stupid things. Eg if I’m making my self lunch he would start swearing and saying how dare you not make it for me too. He swears so much and says the most disgusting things to not only me, but also my parents. It is vile. His ego is above the clouds, he recently became an engineer at a top firm (only because my parents paid 100k for his education at a top school and also paid the fee to join the company), and now he acts like he is on top of the world and everyone else is shit compared to him. Funny because if my parents didn’t give him the money, he wasn’t making it anywhere

Then came towards the end of my seperation. He started swearing at me again, and I pushed back and said who do you think you are etc, I threw his shirt from the ironing board to the floor because I was angry. I don’t swear. He then proceeded to call me names, say “ur a divorcee ur nothing anymore” , “ur a bitch”, he said to my parents “ur daughter is a whore” etc, and then came my last straw. He walked up to me, and spat in my face. How disgusting. From someone you have done so much for.

Since that moment, I packed all my things, and left to stay with my friend. And since then, I have reconciled with my husband and we are back living together again and things are going well touch wood.

I want nothing to do with my brother anymore. My parents still live with him and try and excuse his behaviour but I’m not doing it anymore. I’m done. I also have stopped speaking to my dad a lot too as he watched his son spit on his daughter’s face and did nothing.

It is unfortunate but I genuinely want nothing to do with them anymore. My mum supported me yes but even she tries to excuse him. I’m not tolerating this behaviour.

In the Indian culture, if your family are not with you it becomes hard for a daughter especially when navigating in laws. I haven’t told my husband any of it btw nor do I plan to, as I’m worried it’ll be used against me one day.

Since then, although I had issues with my in laws, I make more of an effort with his family including his mum and sister (who have in the past been not nice to me either), however one thing I can say is nobody on my husbands family was ever abusive to me.

What are your opinions? Please tell me I have not overreacted here as I am to this day so SICK of what I had to go through by people I did the world for. After that, I want nothing to do with that person

Hi guys

Sitting my finals this November - SBM and case.

When is a good time to start? Also any tips?

Thanks!

HI guys

Im doing case study and SBM for November. My final exams finally!

When is a good time to start studying for these? I can’t take days off from work unfortunately

I went through depression and really bad illness and weight loss around May. In July my hair started falling out in chunks. Upon research I agreed it was tellogen effluvium.

My job is beauty based and I have lost 60-70% of my hair in the last month alone with no end in sight. This is making me feel very insecure now and not able to perform at my best.

Can I get hair extensions?

If you see my previous posts, I’ve been through the worst in the last 3 years due to marriage / living with in laws, and now potential divorce.

I’ve been at my mums for a while now completely stripped of everything in life. Lost my confidence and am now a shell of a girl and struggle speaking to people whereas before I was always the life of the party, I’ve lost 70% of my hair due to stress so beauty confidence dropped when I used to be pretty, all my stuff is at his home and they won’t let me have it, so living with out and starting all over again. Lost 15kg and my body confidence too

I feel at rock bottom

After working on myself and rebuilding, perhaps a year or two, will I ever get my spark back? Will I smile again? I feel like I haven’t smiled or laughed in 6 months and every single day since then has been a living nightmare. Each day feels like a year to get through. I feel broken

I’m UK based and have a job

Got married 2 years ago, husband lied and said we would move out after marriage, which is why I agreed to living with in laws. 2.5 years married passed, and he now won’t move out despite knowing how toxic the environment is for me. I can’t wear shorts without being told off, can’t cook in the kitchen in peace without his family constantly being there, his mum is psycho and obsessed with my husband and makes it super uncomfortable for me. They want me to live on their terms only and I can’t have a say. I can’t do this. Husband is also a wimp infront of his family and can’t stand up for me.

Although my husband is great in every other way I can’t help but think he lied to me about moving out and got married to me in decipt. He knows if he was honest I would’ve never married him. That’s not okay. Also the fact he knows how bad my mental health is there and he still expects me to live there? I’ve been at my mums for the last 4 months now and he still is stubborn

Do I just cut my losses and divorce? I can’t do this anymore it’s too painful also I’m still young

Hi guys

I left my husband 3 months ago and came to stay at my parents as his family were too abusive and toxic and manipulative. I needed to be away from them (we lived with them)

We’ve been married 3 years and I’ve had to deal with a lot of pain and suffering because of them

I started to be quite mean to my husband too because of how much of a bad side it was bringing out of me, I needed to get out as I’m not a bad person, it’s just the situation was unbearable

They’ve done a lot to me. Locked doors as if I’m a thief, called me names, didn’t bother giving me enough space for my things when I moved in despite my MIL and SIL having massive rooms with dressing rooms, getting annoyed when I’m sick, the list goes on. They want me to be their puppet and if I don’t listen then I get bullied. Can’t even wear shorts despite living in the UK lol. You can read my other posts for more detail on what I’ve endured

In 3 years I went from the happiest go lucky girl to the most miserable shell of myself

Husband kept pushing and kept saying ignore ignore but I just couldn’t anymore, he’s not a bad person but he’s too attached to his family

Bare in mind I’m only 25 and I have been brought up in the UK, where honestly nobody lives with in laws anymore

Despite the time apart my husband has said how lonely he is, how his family have been shouting at him most days due to me, and how he wants us to work. BUT he can’t move out. I’ve made it very clear this time I don’t want to live there and I want my own house.

Despite all of this he says he can’t move out and he really promises things will be different this time

I think my gut knows going back will kill me, and depress me, and it’s not a good idea

I even said to him let’s meet in the middle I’m happy to buy a home on the same street, even next door ! But he won’t agree

On one hand I think why do I wanna be with someone who can’t compromise for me the way I do for him, and maybe I should just say leave it and walk away despite how painful it is for me

But on the other hand I love him so much and I want to keep us together do I just accept living w his family? But I just know how badly toxic they are and how it will ruin me :(

Hi guys

I really did not do well on CR. I left many parts.

I’ve also been battling a divorce the past few weeks so it’s been a rough time. However I really knockled down the last 3 weeks as hard as it was

Think I need to give myself grace.

SBM - I can’t remember FM stuff as it was over a year ago. I don’t know valuations or any of that number stuff.

Is it even worth sitting?

I’d rather 1 fail than two

I’ve been focused on CR

I looked at SBM this evening and was clueless.

I was thinking of spending tomorrow and Saturday SBM and Sunday on CR. But are two full days even enough? Should I even bother taking time away from CR?

Any tips for SBM? I sat FM a while back so I don’t remember the calcs. Could anyone give me a complete list of those?

Thanks guys

Hi guys

How are you feeling for CR?

Personally there’s still questions I come across which I have no clue abut. Not sure if that’s normal at this stage

Feeling worried tbh

Hi guys

I’ll be honest I’ve been struggling to focus for CR. right now can barely do a question on my own. Started prep for this quite late due to personal things. I’ve done about 8 questions but nothing is going in. Also have a lot of external pressure on my mind right now.

Haven’t touched SBM. Shall I just forget about CR and just focus on SBM, so atleast I have one pass, instead of focusing on both and possibly failing SBM?

I’d say I have enough time to lock in and pass SBM?

Hi guys

I’ve seen a lot of people speak on the CR FI analysis for the AI Q2 of CR.

I’m not sure what this is but can someone explain? And also let me know where I can get it?

Thanks!

I’ve done 6 and haven’t looked at AI

Would the next 18 days of revision be enough 🥲

Have had person problems going on

Haven’t done much for either other than going through content and about 3-4 CR Qs

Do I have enough time to pass CR/SBM or atleast only CR?

I’m off now until the exam completely.

Any tips would be appreciated too

Ah
There is so much to say that I hope I am able to speak of it all, because of how much pain I am in and how much they’ve ruined me.

I’m 27, married at 25 to husband. He is 28. We dated for 3 years and it was great. He wanted to live with his family after marriage as house is big and he is only son, felt he owed loyalty to them. I was young and in love, agreed Bevause they were nice before the marriage and he reassured me if things got too bad then we’d move out

It’s been just over 2 years. So much has happened and his mum / sister / dad have done things such as:
- locked doors when I was home alone treating me like a thief
- made false accusations and bullied me for things I never did
- made a joke of my feelings
- overheard them wishing divorce on us because his mum and sister hate me that much
- spoke ill of me to their extended families to embarrass me
- no respect to my parents
- I nearly lost my good job because of how stressed I always was so performance dropped
- ⁠his mum makes comments about me wearing shorts (knee length) in the home despite her own daughter wearing them - mind you I was so unwell I had to wear them to cool my body
- made my family spent a fortune on the wedding by selling them dreams “just spend the money she will have the best life ever here”
- was told to sell my car and share with husband but husband wouldn’t let me take it when we argued or if I was mean to his parents. Don’t get my wrong I have said the worst things about his family to him but I felt so stuck and frustrated I felt like I had no choice
- would gang up on me, make me have panic attacks and then tell my husband he’s not allowed to go comfort me whilst I was all alone
- husband constantly defended them and would tell them things I said about them in anger because of how much pain I was in
- despite my mental health he won’t move out
- I have left multiple times only to come back to the same shit after he sells me dreams
- we go on ‘breaks’ where I go to my parents and he doesn’t text or call for days. But then is nice to me. It’s on and off. This isn’t a marriage
- kept ties with his family members who told him To divorce me
- makes me contribute 50/50 for holidays despite being his wife
- he hates travel but I love it and we hardly have privacy but he makes me feel like a burden for travelling with me and spending quality time with me when these are basics
- intimacy is close to zero and I constantly crave his attention and physical touch

On the other hand, he has also been a great husband at times:
- cooks for me
- nurses me when I’m sick
- makes every occasion so good for me and celebrates me
- great connection when things aare good

This time is different. I’ve realized how unstable my life has become, constantly taking suitcases from place to place - it’s embarrassing. And it’s not fair. Half my stuff at my parents half at his family home. I’m realizing if he truly loved me, he would choose me. This wouldn’t be happening. My heart still sometimes doesn’t accept this fact but I know logically it must be rude right? I’m in an awful place, I have exams in 4 weeks and haven’t studied because of how heartbroken I am, I can’t eat, I’ve lost 5kg. I cry everyday and that’s all I do. Bit by bit I was stripped of everything the last two years. I went from a happy bubbly girl to a shell of myself with 0 confidence. I am also so so terrified to be a divorcee and nobody will ever touch me / love me again? Why would he ruin my life like this. I feel like my life is over and I’m so angry, so upset. He wants to meet in around a month after space and I think he is assuming I will move back in like all the other times, but this time I need something to hold onto. He needs to sacrifice too, atleast stand up to his family? Imagine if we had kids oh my god

It would be good to get opinions on my situation. To add, I’m educated and brought up in America. So is he but his mum came from India.

Hi guys

I’m going through a painful divorce. Have finally moved my stuff and settled at my parents home. Got a desk and stufff.

Haven’t really done much revision at all as I’ve been figuring my life out.

I’m sitting CR and SBM and have the rest of the time until then off work.

Can I realistically pass if I put my head down? Or do I defer? I ideally don’t want to defer as I’ve deferred these far too many times

And if I do keep at it, any tips? I haven’t even prepped an open book yet

Oh god where do I even start

Been married for nearly 1.5 years and have lived with in laws. We are uk based and husband and I are both educated with good careers. We are both 28. Husband refuses to move out from their house as they’ve given us sufficient space (bedroom, walk in closet, and bathroom) but we still have to share kitchens and living rooms !!! I’m so tired of it

The house has his mum and dad, 2 younger sisters, and grandparents and us. The mum and 2 sisters are so toxic. I’ve heard them wish divorce on us because they hate me that much. In anger I’ve sworn about them to my husband because of how miserable they made my life

Constantly reminding me that this isn’t my home. Not letting hubby and I put our wedding photos up but it’s full of their daughters photos. Adamant we have to live with them yet we can’t treat it like our home. Husband doesn’t care all he cares about is living with family forever. Don’t get me wrong he is a great husband and does a lot to make me happy and says in return pls give him one thing which is live with in laws. I just can’t tho, it’s the biggest thing and I’ve been miserable since we got married

His mum at times goes psycho on me when she feels like picking a fight. I’ve had enough so I speak back now loudly and my husband doesn’t like it so he doesn’t take a stand for me Bevause Apparnetly I’m fueling it

The amount of times I’ve been told to leave, come back, leave, come back. Constantly packing my stuff unpacking packing unpacking, settling there here there here. It is SO unsettled. I’ve been living out of suitcases!! They are awful people

Last week was the final straw. His mum was so abusive and when I tried leaving the room she tried to pin me down. My parents took me home because of the amount my health is now suffering

I love him so much but I can’t live like this. I’m considering divorce but I’m scared

What are your thoughts