r/IndianWomen

I'm a microbiologist. I know pickles spoil because of moisture, air, or a dirty spoon. Not because a menstruating woman touched the jar.

But my aunt still believes period blood will rot the entire batch. And she's not alone. Millions of Indian women still follow this.

So someone explain this to me — how did a natural biological process become more "dangerous" than actual bacteria? Is this purely a patriarchy thing? Or was there some logic behind it in ancient times (like no proper hygiene products)?

Serious answers only. I genuinely want to understand where this myth came from.

So, I had recently gone for my annual health checkup and during my ECG process, the technician asked me whether I am married (I am married) and that I don’t look like 31 at all. Then she proceeds to ask me if I have a kid and I said no. The nerve the lady had to say that- “oh that’s why your figure is maintained otherwise it will get ruined soon after having a kid”. Clearly she was jealous (and heavily pregnant as well) that my figure “didn’t” seem like that of a 31 year old woman. While doing my ECG, she kept on pestering with question- “Why haven’t you have had kids yet?”, “Do it fast”, “It becomes very difficult”, “As a women the only purpose is to have kids”. I really wanted to shut her off but since she was pregnant, I couldn’t bear myself to be reply to her and just kept smiling and ignoring her questions.

My question to child free women, what would have you done in this case? I was really annoyed but since it was just 5 mins procedure and she was pregnant, I let it go but mind is so fixated on why do some women think they have the right to talk to other women like this? Already I had to deal a lot on this from my MIL and I have taken this big decision to be child free (because I am not mentally capable of bringing a child to this world especially when both my husband and I had toxic childhoods and I believe we are both toxic as people too).

Virginity is a concept created by a man who thinks his dick is so powerful that it can fundamentally change who a woman is.

I 25F recently met a guy 26M through an arranged marriage setup and our first meeting honestly went really well. We spoke for almost 2 hours straight, conversation flowed naturally, he was intelligent, funny, self-aware, and I didn’t notice any obvious red flags in person.

A little context about him:

• well educated

• Founder of a successful AI startup

• the start up is still in its early stages

• Extremely ambitious and clearly passionate about what he does

The thing I’m struggling with is his lifestyle.

He usually starts work around 2 PM and comes home around 3 AM. He told me he genuinely enjoys working and doesn’t even feel stressed by it.

When I brought up work-life balance, he listened and said he’d value a partner who understands the demands of startup life. (Which I totally understand and am willing to support ) 

Texting-wise, he’s very “to the point.” He can sometimes take almost a day to reply, which throws me off a little because I’m used to a lot more emotional engagement and attentiveness in general.

But at the same time:

• he proactively asked to meet again

• seems genuinely interested in me 

• sincerely apologized when he had to cancel a meetup because of a US trip

• and already planned a meeting for when he is back in India 

Here's what scares me - 

I don’t need constant texting or attention, but I do want emotional presence, companionship, and a marriage where I don’t always feel like work comes first.

I can’t tell if I’m overthinking normal founder behavior or correctly sensing a long-term compatibility issue.

Would especially love perspectives from:

• people married to founders/workaholics

• founders themselves

• or anyone who’s been through arranged marriage setups where the communication dynamic felt very different from normal dating

Hi everyone. About 10 months ago (late 2024), during a lonely phase in school, I joined an online group chat through an author's account. I ended up talking to a few guys from different states. I only found out later on that they were older than me and came from poor, shady backgrounds. Because I wanted to help them improve their lives, I took on a sisterly/mentor role—giving them advice on studies, finances, and pushing them to leave bad habits behind. I also got stuck in the middle of their messy relationship dramas.

​Because I trusted them like family at the time, I overshared. I sent personal daily vlogs, photos, general hints about my school/city, and openly discussed normal health topics like my periods.

​Eventually, I realized they were untrustworthy, caught up in bad environments, and just using me for their own egos. I cut all ties and stopped talking to them 10 months ago.

​Recently, due to severe anxiety, I panicked that they might still have screenshots of those old chats/vlogs and could somehow use them to trace me or harm my family.

To protect myself, I recently requested the permanent deletion of my account, and it is now officially disabled on the servers. There has been zero contact or conflict for nearly a year.

​Am I in any actual danger of being tracked down or targeted from things shared 10 months ago, or is this just my anxiety taking over? Any rational perspective would help. Thanks.

Hey everyone,i dont have knowledge about this so i thought it would be better to ask you all,I need help of some tech experts in how to delete a tiktok account, as an indian person where in the country it's banned , I want to delete my account on tiktok as it's still there, i am already low on my mental health and can't afford this thing now this is the last straw,back then I was young and mostly dumb when I posted those videos currently my mental health is very bad due to some past experience and now ts triggers the fear i have , so I had no hope but to ask people here if they can help me out regarding this .

If anyone among you all who is kind enough to help me out on this kindly help it would mean a lot. Thank you , stay safe and happy .

Indian men can't even help their wife with household work. They don't even know the basic stuff like making tea but they'll argue with you on how to make it. Like, if u know better than me be my guest. My mil never taught her 3 sons and husband how to do the basic cooking. I have to suffer whenever she goes off to her own house. The eldest brother's wife goes off to her house when mil goes away leaving everything to me. I usually arrive late from work. I can't even get a proper rest because I have to make dinner for everyone. I'm just freaking tired. No idea when mil will come back but I'll have to suffer until then. My husband doesn't even understand my struggle...only complaints. No matter how hard I try. I just can't wait to get away from here. It's because of this stupid family he's acting like this. Once we're away from this family, there won't be anyone for him to impress lol. So ladies please stay away from marriage. Get a job and live life according to your own terms.

Dear Indian girls , a very annoying thing has been bothering me and i would love to hear what you guys do

When i go to the toilet and use the jetspray ,the coochie remains wet ofc and i HATE that feeling. Also not hygienic ofc. I am using toilet paper for drying off but it obviously isn't good for the environment. I am looking for alternatives and how y'all deal with it in public toilets (at work ,travel) where toilet paper isn't available ?