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25F got married 2 years ago through arranged marriage setup. He and his family deceived his income. When I confronted him I was pregnant at that time. There were whole lot of arguments and at the end he and his family ghosted me. Now I am living with my newborn. He has never supported me financially and it didn't bother me for once as I earn pretty well. But what bothers me now is him not being present in my child's life both emotionally and financially. I don't know what to do next because I don't want my child to be in this position.

I (hindi native speaker) am looking for feedback on a disagreement I have with my spouse whose native language is marathi. For the sake of keeping it succinct, I want feedback on just the term and nothing outside the scope of the relationship.

He said a sentence to the dog in marathi which is his cute love language. We have a velcro dog.

I thought he said "we are leaving you behind" like how u tease kids and I said to dog "aww no we aren't leaving u behind" In hindi baby voice.

All this was said in fun so far.

He claims I said : husband dont scold dog.

There were people around when I said this. He got offended (learnt this later).

He said : tumhe nahi pata maine marathi me kya bola, kuch bhi bakwaas mat karo.

Use of the word bakwaas escalated the argument for me.

I will detail the rest of the argument here later but just till this point.. want to know if use of bakwaas should not be a big trigger. He says he is using it as replacement for senseless.

Hello everyone I wanted to vent with someone there is been lot going on in my life betrayed by everyone friends and family needed to vent.

Edit : I confessed and he likes me back but we agreed on separating our ways cause I don't want kids but he does.

I'm f23 and he is m21.

Back in 2025 my ex r* me and even after breaking up I had nightmares, can't sleep, hit rock bottom and wanted to end my life.

My then best friend helped me out. He was so gentle with me and the only person I can still feel safe with that I started to have feelings for him. I confessed but he rejected.

This broke out friendship as college ended and we drifted apart.

In 2026 on new year we started taking again about random stuff.

By April he confessed he is having feelings for me and wants to marry someday. I didn't had strong feelings but still liked him...

But I refused and told him I don't like him anymore.

I never told him the correct reason why I refused.

I refused bcs :

1.He and I are of the same religion but his family is extremely religious while my family was religious but something happened and now we don't talk about religion.

( I'm sorry I can't explain it fully but it will just give a reason for his family to look down on mine)

( He know about my family / religious background)

2. His family has 2 people but I wonder if I'll be able to keep up with them if we have diff beliefs.

Also just to mention we might not live with them bcs both of us will be working in a diff city.

3. I'm scared to be in a relationship after what my ex did.

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Recently I am wondering if I should ask him about his feelings ? I'm scared of giving him hope... And asking my papa if there is any possibility.

Now about my papa he is supportive, loving and understanding. But I have disappointed him before badly and I don't wanna disappoint him anymore..

So I'm spiralling and him and I haven't talked since April...

Hi guys, I am a women who wishes to be childfree but I also want to be ready for what coming in sometime - the taunts, constant pressure and what not from the people around me. Please share you worst experiences / ways people have tried to pressurized you to have kids. Please do mention if you are male or female if possible since I have a bit of idea on what women get to hear but would be good to know what even guys get to hear.

Btw female drop your stories too cause i know that’s what i will also have to hear soon

I grew up in a joint family setup with all my cousins and grandparents. I was the only girl among the kids, so I grew up only with brothers. I was also the youngest among all.

As I grew up, I felt almost a daily struggle with their poor bathroom hygeine and ettiquette. I was firm about not liking this to my parents and initially didn't tell them directly about how grossed out I felt in the bathrooms. My parents made a polite mention and so did I later on, but to no respite. Later, due to many more reasons beyond this discussion, we (my parents and I) moved out. Even when they occasionally visited us at our new place, they would leave the bathroom in an unusable condition.

Fast forward some 20 years. Today all my cousins are married and have moved out of their parents home. I've visited all of their places. Their bathrooms are now spotless. Perfectly kept. How did they suddenly change behavior they were unable to for 20 years?! The only reasonable guess I can make is that their wives demanaded better bathroom ettiquette as a bare minimum and dealbreaker. Suddenly now, they fall in line. This sheer entitlement mentality (''raja beta syndrome") is sickening. At least I'm glad their wives don't have to put up with what I did.

Hi , I am a 20 yo women who has never been in a relationship, I am conventionally attractive as per the Indian society I had to tell this before saying that I am single , I have al the features that are considered cute or feminine just not my personality, I was a tomboy , I am the one making nasty jokes all the time , I am not considered fragile or soft , I had financial difficulties growing up ,my first job was at 16 Now im doing my bachelors with a night shift job , I never experienced a guy liking me and I liking him back the reason i think is prosperity, I mu personality and life miserable I think men usually wanna date a happy women not the one struggling deprived of love , I have never experienced love, not from parents or grandparents or anyone , I don't trust anyone, I have been completely self independent or survival since a year , and everyone at some point had someon who liked them or been in a relationship, I think to get love you need to be loved as well . What do you think lmk , i used dating apps for a year Never had a guy put efforts in me who was sane

Hi everyone. I'm a 22-year-old woman from India and lately l've been feeling that making genuine female friendships has become harder compared to school days.
Back then it felt natural because you met people every day, but now everyone seems busy with their own lives, careers, or studies. My circle has become quite small and sometimes I wonder if other women also feel the same way.
For those in their 20s, how did you meet your close female friends? Did it happen naturally or did you have to actively put yourself out there?
Would really like to hear your experiences and advice.And would love to make some female friends here if interested my dms are open for my girlies.

Hey, just curious are there any female bike riders in Gurgaon I don’t see many compared to hyd just curious.

I am not dating him but we would have if I didn't felt the way I did.

Tbh he was too broke he would tell me his financial struggles

He was emotionally mature and all, but I am quite young I want to go on good dates with good men and want to be treated good

Also whenever he tells about his brokenness i unconsciously think about saving money so we can go on dates.

For quite sometime I felt like a gold digger or women i previously despised, but I realised I want a man to spend on me.

I want to be treated, I want to feel safe.

What do u think

Am I analysing too much

Also their is this thing he has no routine and I don't feel he has ambition

He did tell me about his anxiety issues and all he faced a few months back.

But I don't think I am ready for a man in his struggling phase

Where he is figuring out .

Because I am in the same phase and I still have direction I am more busy than him

He is literally soo free, the only thing he did was go to gym nothing else.

I'm starting law school soon and made a brand-new Instagram because I wanted a fresh start. I don't want anyone from my old school on this account since I never really connected with them.

The only thing I'm worried about is that it has 0 followers. Since a lot of people my age network through Instagram, I'm afraid classmates might think it's a fake account or that I'm weird.

Has anyone else started university with a new account? Did people actually care?

Hi everyone,

I’m a 28F living in urban India, and I’m specifically hoping to hear from women who are building their lives on their own not because they chose to, but because circumstances led them here.

I’ve been dealing with PTSD, depression, and GAD for a few years now. I’m in treatment (psychiatrist + therapy for 5+ years), and from the outside my life looks stable. I’m doing okay professionally as an Architect, brilliant record academically and I have supportive family and friends. Yet, it is not enough for me to sustain myself.

But internally, it feels very fragile.

A pattern I’ve noticed is that after setbacks, even relatively small ones, I tend to spiral into recurring suicidal thoughts. I’ve never acted on them, but their presence makes me question my emotional capacity to do life alone.

I’ve tried meeting people whether through AM or dating apps, but most experiences leave me feeling like I’m “too much” for Men to handle. Whether that’s fully true or not, it has been my repeated experience. Over time, it’s made me feel like building a life with someone may not be realistic for me, even though it’s not what I would have chosen.

So now I’m trying to come to terms with living a largely self-partnered life by compulsion, not choice.

I would really value hearing from women who relate to this—not those who happily chose independence, but those who had to accept it:

• How did you come to terms with this path emotionally?
• How do you build a life that still feels meaningful and not like a compromise?
• How do you handle the grief/resentment of “this is not the life I planned”?
• How do you create stability when your mental health already feels unpredictable?

I’m trying not to give up, but I also feel like I’m running out of resilience.

This is my first time posting something this honestly, so please share any resources or experiences for hope.