Maybe my friends are not my friends?
Sorry for the bad English!
I’m turning 30 years old in 3 weeks and I decided to celebrate it in my hometown so that it would be easy for my family and my hometown friends to attend and the majority of people that I will be inviting is from there too.
It’s been 3 years now since i moved away from my hometown and during does years I have manage to make id say close friends. I decided to write in our group chat that I will be celebrating my 30th birthday in my hometown and I’d like them to come.
I also mentioned to them that I know it’s difficult to travel cause of different schedules and so on but if we plan a head maybe we could fix it somehow. It takes about 1 hour to fly and then 1 hour with a car after. But if you don’t want to take the plane, it takes about 6 hours with a car and typically it’s cheaper.
Anyways, the response I got was I got left on read.. besides one person. I then told them that If you can’t make it then I’ll just have another party where I live now so that we can have a little celebration together. And the response I got was also dead silent.
I felt so sad and disappointed.. I would’ve understood if they gave a response like “ Oh that’s sooo nice, but I can’t make it” instead of just leaving me on read. I thought that they would be more excited to get together and celebrate me but I guess not. And to be honest, I don’t even care that’s it’s my birthday, I just wanted us to come together and have a good time.
Oh well at least one of them responded so it might be not that bad. But yeah I just wanted vent a little bit and maybe think about who really I can call a friend. I’m starting to realise that I have to be careful on who I choose to spend my energy and time with. It just felt so unfair because they are not giving me the same energy that i would’ve . I’ll probably spend less time with them or cut them off.. what do you think ?