u/AlarmInevitable269

Im a sahm and im also trying to balance our families nutrition. I struggle with getting dinner on the table by 5/6 and thats the optimal time for it to be there for our family. As a result ive started to research some meals i can pre-make or pre-prepare and then freeze so that if i cant make something fresh, a healthy meal is still on the table.

So far i have premade chimmychungas, bean and mexican rice burritos, and quiche. I plan to premake some lasgna, shepherds pie filling, and meatloaf as well.

Looking for tried and true recomendations

Im a dependent, my husband is an e5 ati. We have 2 children.

My dad died very suddenly and my moms financial situation has become tenous. At the same time we just recieved orders to Oceana. My husband and I have been planning to move on base as soon as we recieved orders for our own financial planning/rising cost of living/electricity prices/tolls/gas/etc. We (including my mom) already live in virginia but not close enough to oceana for a reasonable commute

I know that there is a way to declare a parent as a dependent and that it is extremly difficult to do and requires at least a year of proof of support.

I was also reading that there may be a way to request a "long term guest" excemption that would allow my mom to stay with us on base?

I dont know how any of this works or what avenues are available to us or who to talk to for help. Any direction would be appreciated!

I am lying in bed awake, in desperate need of sleep, thinking about how i let myself down today as a parent.

I lost my cool on my toddler who woulsnt stop kicking and punching the bed, and standing and dropping herself on the mattress near her infant sister. She even bit me today (she thought it was funny), which is very left field for her. She was just overflowing with playfullness and i couldnt bring her down.

I just want her to go to bed without a fight but she just doesnt stop. So i lost my cool i yelled at her, and im so disapointed in just how angry i felt. Im the adult, how can i teach her emotional regulation if i lose it too?

She has no fear of consequences. I can tell her what is going to happen if she does something and she just laughs at me. When i follow through she screams and cries and says she wont jump or kick or hit and then once her time-out is over she goes right back to it. Then my infant starts crying and im flustered and frustrated and barking commands at my toddler "just lay down. Lay down. Stop climbing on me. Stop. Stop. Stop. Your pulling my hair. Lay down." all useless communication. I just feel trapped trying to calm down my infant while my toddler takes advantage.

Consequences include:

Me leaving the room with little sister

Putting her in the pack-n-play so she cant climb out and continue to kick her feet or bounce on the bed

Putting her in time out for 2 minutes.

Her response:

She laughs at me until i follow through then screams and cries until the consequence ends. Then repeats the bad behavior as soon as the consequence is over.

We have a good routine to set her up for success with going to bed. Her general attitude towards sleep is "why" and "i dont like sleeping".

My husband is in the navy he is an e5. They thought his rate was under bba and his higher ups had him take the e6 exam. He thought he was eligible to take it at the time. Its been a week now and they just told him he isnt eligible because his rate isnt under bba yet.

He is the #1ep recomendation, he was a nominee for the sailor of the year and he has been fulfilling e6 billets like lpo. is there a way to get a waiver now or someone he can talk to?

im asking because im a redditor and i typically on this subreddit to understand more about his job and how it affects our family. it means a lot to him so i figured doing a little bit of research (by asking) on my own is my way to be supportive.

edit: got interrupted by my 2 yo and accidently posted earl