How do I (19M) deal with a complete lack of closure with my girlfriend (19F)?
I met my girlfriend (if I can even still call her that) almost a year ago now. It was the most random thing. I met her at the gym and we started talking and immediately clicked. She was very special in that she was everything that I wanted, and I was everything she wanted.
I was going through a rough phase at the time. She helped me through it by just being there for me, making me feel cared for and heard etc. I felt so "at home" with her and not alone. I felt loved and not unlovable and I had more direction.
She was visiting family during an extended holiday. I was only able to spend less than 2 months with her before she had to go back to the US. We didn't break up and agreed to try "long distance" and try to visit if we can.
The first few months were fine, but it was short lived. She became more unavailable (She said she is getting busier) until she stopped responding completely.
It has now been 3 months since I last spoke to her. I told her brother about this, and he said it's normal and that she can go weeks without texting / calling when she is busy. I asked if it's because she lost interest / found someone else, and he said its very unlikely.
I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to accept her reasons, remain hopeful and think of a future with her. The other wants to cut my losses and move on, which I have found difficult. Literally everything reminds me of her. Every time I don't feel well, I remember how much comfort she brought. I have come close to moving on, but something always pulls me back. I have thought about dating again, but no one is the same, or even close.
This is coupled with the fact that I have no clue what really happened with her. I can't stop thinking about her and what her life must be like. It feels unfair that she can just forget me and live her perfect life with everything I never had while I'm in this mess still thinking about her. I don't know if giving up and not messaging again is worth it. I'll lose the one person who made me happy, and the hope that stuff is improving. I don't know what to make of all this.