An average marriage
What is marriage to the majority of people? I understand all of us have our ups and downs. We go through happy times and really hard times and the hope is that you have a partner that you can at most times work together as a team. Whether it’s a health issue, work, kids, family etc. I grew up with parents that yes, fought but then apologized but for the most part were happy. My Dad always giving hugs kisses smiles and I love yous. Always smiling at my Mom. Truly loved her, me and my siblings. I don’t get that. I did when we were dating and newly married. But since we had kids (20 yrs ago) it shifted. The majority of the time he comes home from work “stressed and tired” if I’m lucky I get a peck on the cheek for a hello. He does spend time watching a show or two but other than that is on the computer or doing yard work. And I’m inside making dinner and then cleaning up after everyone in the house. He has anger issues that come and go and it’s difficult to have serious conversations. When other people are around he’s mister happy. And more affectionate. I am a sahm to adhd and autistic kids. It’s tough. But at the end of the day. I’m still so happy and grateful for them and for life in general. So when my husband comes home and even on the weekends doesn’t seem to be happy around. Is it me? Is this just a “lonely marriage” or am I expecting too much? He does work so hard and is out taking care of the yard but.. this isn’t what I’d want my kids to have. But again am I just watching too much romance shows? Is this how it is for most marriages?