F29 | Talash e Shohar v.1.6
Age: 29F
Height & Weight: 162cm & 54 kg
Marital status: Single
Education: Masters
Profession: Teaching
City: Islamabad
Residence: Rented.
**About Me:** I consider myself an old soul, while I don’t have enough white hair to proof this statement, the lack of whities ofc doesn’t stop me from giving nasheehatien to all my students like a 50 year old boomer auntie – while still often being taken for a student myself. I teach at a higher level and I do it because I enjoy it, I don’t consider myself career oriented because I have always taken advantage of the fact the I am not obliged to contribute to household financially, using my professional life as a means to grow and involve myself in things that motivate me and add value to my life. I want to continue working after marriage for the same reasons.
I enjoy having a tyrant teacher energy (it goes stronger each day), chai with good conversations and walking, most of my hobbies are because of peer pressure, currently the popular ones in my circle are crochet and stock exchange. I used to read, but now that is only limited to going down weird reddit/ tumblr rabbit holes currently trying to go through the help but unable to find the time. I love routines, I find them predictable and reassuring; I have had the exact same breakfast for more than a year (still counting), I am someone who will get same pair of shoes repeatedly until i walk into the store with the previous pair and the shopkeepers cannot recognize it anymore; I ended up ordering the same pair of sunglasses for the third time (had to get all the way from Ali express but it worked out?
In terms of Family and roots, I am a pathan, however I have spent most of my life in Punjab because of my father’s job (air force), which is why culturally, I vibe more with the Punjab side. However, I still have Pashtun values ingrained in me, perhaps that is why I come of a little conservative/traditional.
Both my parents have worked throughout my youth and then on top of it they had the audacity to kick all of their children out at 18, Recently however all the birds are flocking back to the nest since my mom diagnosed with cancer, currently i mostly spend half of my week in islamabad and second half in kamra, has it made life busy, yes. But it also helps you appreciate a lot more on life. This reuploading of the profile has also been because of her encouragement.
**Religion:** I consider myself moderately practicing, while my parents are more conservative, I have had a more turbulent journey with faith, starting from a strong base with the flame almost dying to it slowly reviving in the past three-ish years and being stable now (for the most part) regardless of all storms. My emphasis is on the 5 pillars and then being a decent human. I don’t practice hijab.
Because of my own relationship with faith, I understand best how personal these journeys can be; I don’t like interference in own practice, neither am I interested in meddling with someone else’s faith. For me, a partner who’s a believer, Sunni, progressive, suffices. I don’t particularly mind if the person isn’t practicing as long as both of our values do not conflict with each other’s.
**Children:** I am v conflicted on children, for me it’s a huge responsibly as well extreme change in dynamics, which is why I am a maybe . However, I am extremely against abortion. and hold the view point that autonmy lies with the woman.
**A Good partner:** For me, a good partner would be someone who is around my age/+5, ethically and morally sound. I myself am a little boring and enjoy unnecessarily deep and thought-provoking conversations so hopefully he can match me on those. I give a lot of weightage to witt and humour, and its one of the few things I would consider my dealbreakers.
Good communication and adaptability is important, along with a soft temperament and negotiation skills.
I don’t expect him to have a separate space, however I have always lived either independently or in a nuclear setup and realistically speaking I don’t think I can manage living in a "classic big" joint family system.
Financial stability is important; I don’t believe in the mera paisa bhi mera piasa and uska piasa bhi mera piasa, but I do think financial responsibility lies on the husband. I am a simple person however, and I don’t have a lot of financial demands, but I really do not want the responsibility or stress on myself.
I would prefer it if is someone who is in Islamabad, purely because it makes things simple. however, things are rarely this idealistic and i would be okay with moving granted other things align well.
Timeframe : 1 year. however, i dont think the talking stage should not take longer than 3 months. Family involvement is very important and if for whatever reason that isnt possible for you within the first three months I i would suggest you not to reach out.
I am a slow texter most of the time. Just a heads-up if you reach out. Also, yes this is an alt.