AITAH for not inviting my sister to my Mother’s Day event?
This situation has gone on for a while, I thought it would die down but it only escalated things. My grandma believes I am TA, so here I am for outside opinions.
Op(33f) sister(37f)
So I hosted a Mother’s Day event for the moms and kids in my little circle, I invited close friends, family, etc. the only person I didn’t invite was my sister, my sister and I have a tough relationship.
Most of my childhood with her was just bullying me, saying many hurtful things, we have different mothers and our dad is married to my mom, so maybe that’s why. She’s burnt many bridges with me, said weird stuff about my kids. She told me that she was embarrassed to be my sister, didn’t consider us siblings. So we are not close, my kids and her kids aren’t close at all. We really have no contact and that’s been fine for us.
My sister has 4 kids, two of her kids have autism. Her oldest son(13) is level 3, while her daughter (7) is level 2. I understand how hard that can be, she makes a lot of excuses though, when people try to help her, she doesn’t take it but goes on rants about how no one helps her. Her oldest can’t go around people much because he likes to hit them, spit, he’s done it to her. So I didn’t feel like my guest would feel comfortable.
If you want to know if she’s in a relationship, yes she’s married to her husband, Trevor(48m). To be honest, that man doesn’t really help her much. The guy is a workaholic,
Before the event happened, I sent invitations that I made on canvas out. Some of my friends, and family posted it on their social media. That’s what caused this, my sister followed one of them. One day after, she contacted me through my instagram. She sent my invitation asked “what was this and why didn’t I know”
That was my first time hearing from her in months, maybe years. I told her it was my event, kept it short. That’s when she went off, saying how it’s weird that I didn’t invite her or the kids but invited people that’s not my real family. What was so random was when she started talking about the problems in her house.
Maybe she just wanted to talk since her mom recently passed. I was over it, I replied back and told her that we are not family and we’re not close so why would I invite her. AITAH