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Hi I'm a 50f, and my boyfriend, 56m and I have been together for a year now. I love him so much. I was married for years but ended up divorcing my ex because we weren't getting along, to put it lightly. I was single for two years before I met my current boyfriend.
Now, my boyfriend is a widower; his late wife passed away 12 years ago. They were together for over 25 years. We both have kids from our previous marriages. Here's where it gets tricky: his uncle, who's 79m, has never really seemed to like me. The other day, we had a bit of an argument because he was talking down to me like I was a child. Then, out of nowhere, he said that when his late wife passed away, he thought my boyfriend would have met a nice white woman, not another coloured one. It really hurt that he said that to me. He usually puts on this perfect uncle and gentleman act, but it's clearly not genuine.
I know I should probably tell my boyfriend, but I'm torn. I really don't want him to fall out with his uncle, especially since his uncle is old, and I also don't think it's really my place to cause drama within his family. But at the same time, it's eating me up inside, and I feel like my boyfriend should know how his uncle really feels about me.
What should I do? Any advice would be appreciated.