Text her after years
Hi everyone, I’m new here and could really use some honest input on this
I’m 25M, and my ex (25F) and I broke up about 2.5 years ago after nearly 8 years together. The breakup didn’t end very maturely on my part, and she moved on pretty quickly honestly I wasn’t the best partner during the relationship either I was still a kid and growing and learning in my first serious relationship and honestly only relationship .
But Lately, I’ve been going through a lot and feel like I really need someone to talk to. The problem is, I’m not close enough with my friends or family to truly open up, and she was the one person who always understood me better than anyone. She knows my life inside and out, and honestly, sometimes better than I know myself.
I’ve been thinking about reaching out to her just for support or friendship—not because I want to get back together or interfere with her current relationship. That’s the last thing I’d want to do. I’m just feeling lost and don’t really know who else to turn to.
We were definitely toxic toward the end, but we also understood each other deeply. I’m really conflicted about whether reaching out would be selfish or inappropriate, or if it’s okay to ask for help from someone who once meant that much to me.
I’m confused, feeling pretty alone, and therapy isn’t really an option for me right now. Has anyone been in a similar situation? What would you do?