When deciding to marry
Hi there - I'm looking for opinions and not necessarily solutions. What are your experiences or do you have any pearls of wisdom.
Question
I'm struggling to decide whether to marry someone. Do I marry someone quite different to me or do I look for someone more like me?
Context
Currently in a relationship, nearing 6 years. Two very different personalities, I would argue we compliment each other more than we don't. We love each other. Nothing is perfect.
I'm not very emotional (I do have my sensitivities), she is much more emotional than me. In general, I'm quieter, lack direction, and have struggled with life in various ways, but I'm social, and fairly confident in other areas of life that other people find challenging.
She's energetic, passionate, she really makes me feel valued, somewhat prone to anxiety and she has hyperactive tendencies. Things can be chaotic (schedules and cleaning are hard to keep on track) but things can be fun and spontaneous and fresh.
Our relationship works because she helps me in so many ways and to be honest, she is the reason I've managed to stay in a relationship this long and I'm incredibly proud and loyal to her. She's taught me so much and we have a lot of shared interests.
There are drawbacks and I find myself questioning whether we're a good fit sometimes...
There's no question in my mind that she has made me a better person.