u/Alarmed_Ticket9246

I have seen a huge increase of people on TikTok speaking on "de-centering men," a super valid concept IMO. However, I think a lot of people speaking on this tend to forget that a large majority of women want so deeply to be understood and loved by another person. For a majority of women, this other person would be a man. Like any human being, a lot of women crave romance and love.

So, how does that play out in the concept of de-centering men? I have asked r/Feminism the same question, and I am curious for a more radfem perspective.

I am someone who has a lot of nuanced opinions on sex work (as most people should, IMO). I have been discussing this topic with a few women from my group in Shepherdstown: when does criticizing the industry turn into sex work exclusionary feminism?
I think it is one of the ground rules of feminism to acknowledge that the sex industry was made for men, by men, and aimed to capitalize on women and our sexuality. That being said, women who participate and benefit in some way from this industry do exist.

After speaking about the topic for a while, another woman in my group spoke up and said, "Well, would these women do half the things they do if money weren't the convincing factor?"

Do you think that is the beginning of SWERF or a valid question to ask when thinking about feminism radically?