u/Alarming-Ant2505

My only sexual partner was my ex, with whom I was in a 10+ year relationship. Since that relationship ended I’ve only recently started seeing different people again. Before that I didn't have to worry about STDs...

So I want to ask do you actually ask someone before oral sex if they’re sexually healthy or if they have any STDs or anything like that? I know on paper we should ask etc. but do you actually ask?