WIBTA if I changed my bank password so my mum cant access it?
OK so this is my 2nd post on here so I apologize if this is sloppily made, but basically I (17M) and my mum (45F) have had a rough relationship for a while for many many reasons that I do not have the time to get into, but to the root problem, my grandma has been sending me around £50 every month for my college stuff, like dinner and drinks stuff like that or any books I might need the money has been going to my mums bank account due to me previously not having one, and a few weeks maybe months im honestly unsure, my older brother (20M) told me that my mum has been using some of the money for my college stuff on basic stuff like some extra money to pay for shopping or pay for stuff we need which is fine I dont mind but the big problem for me is she both never asked, and never told me she was doing this had she had asked I would have been fine with it we dont exactly get loads of money as is and idm helping whenever I can but to go behind my back and tell my older brother shes doing this and not me has not say right with me. Recently I had help making my own bank account and because my mum is disabled because she has majour issues with her knees and hands she plans on putting me as one of her carers so that I would be able to be payed around £300 a month for doing it, wich is money that would come in very handy for both of us, she has already said she would be taking some of it due to me not working and being around 18 and to put towards other things wich is fine I dont mindnif she takes 100 of it, I can still do a good deal with 200, but what I plan on doing is having a monthly payment sort of thing that automatically sends my mum the money she wanted so she doesnt need to get it out of my bank account manually, this is also so I can change my password and prevent her from taking more than she needs because I honestly do not trust her at all, I will also be giving my grandma my bank details so that she can send the 50 directly to me from now on.
So WIBTA? Im willing to answer any questions anyone has btww.