Sharing sexual details with/about partners
I’m curious how much you talk about one partner with another, specifically your sex life.
The context: my primary partner always enjoys hearing about what I’ve done with other people, in part because I have had some more adventurous experiences. But also because it’s a turn on for him; I view it as a form of his voyeurism. What I’ve shared has tended to be a little more broad and removed from the immediacy for my actions.
A few nights ago was different. We had talked about me going over to his place after I’d been with another guy, and I finally did it. I enjoy exploring my naughty side, and knowing he gets off on it is also a turn on for me. While we were making out and then having sex he asked and I shared some details of what I’d just done a few hours ago with another partner.
I’d love to hear more about how other people navigate this. What they share…or don’t. What they want to hear…or don’t. And also how they navigate different levels of interest and comfort in the topic. I don’t think I would share as much as I do if I didn’t know my partner really likes to hear it. He respects my boundaries and doesn’t talk about his other partners.