Mahr
Hello!
I am in need of guidance. I am a revert and was looking to get married and I received a proposal from a Pakistani man in Saudi. He already has his first wife and a couple of children with her. He has a good financial situation from what i know. I am reluctant about marrying a man that already has a wife but i am not strongly against this. We have only been talking for about 2 weeks and he wants to come to Europe to meet me and says that if the chemistry is good, we should get married right away (within days).
My concerns are that i am a medical graduate and I would have a hard time doing my medical residency in Saudi as he would most likely want me to relocate there. I am taking a huge risk to be with him as that might put an end to my career that would offer me a very comfortable life. Am I right to ask for two months salary? What other things should i consider? I will not marry him if he doesn’t respect my terms. I am trying to make a list of conditions i would need to have to feel secure.
I know Mahr is supposed to be symbolic but i feel like if i am taking a risk to be with him, so should he. He is eager to come to see me but has not mentioned the Mahr yet. I do not want to push him away with a crazy request but I also don’t want to find myself with a husband that is not generous financially considering that i am generous in commitment.
EDIT: guys i appreciate the advice but if i as a white woman am not choosing to stereotype and judge a person based on nationality, i’d appreciate if you wouldn’t do it either. He has been a kind man so far and i am not willing to treat him unfairly unless he shows disrespect. I do not trust him and that is natural as i dont know him well. I only asked for advice on things to look out for
UPDATE: I can now insult him 😂 I opened up the topics you guys suggested and he is telling me i am brainwashed. You were all right 😂