Lindsay being seen as the central victim and not her children is what really bothers me

Lindsay being seen as the central victim and not her children is what really bothers me

I'm really struggling with the public perception in this trial. How Lindsay is viewed as the ultimate victim of negligence and not her children. How Lindsay was failed by every single person in her life. How Lindsay suffered. Etc

I'm trying to have empathy and keep an open mind since the trial is not over yet. I don't want to dismiss maternal mental health struggles and I understand that conversations regarding post-partum mental illnesses have been long overdue.

I'm just really struggling to see how Lindsay Clancy of all people is being treated as the poster-child for such conversations when she never had a history of psychosis.

Thoughts? I'm open to hearing everyone's thoughts, whether they agree or disagree.

u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 12 hours ago

Women fought hard to have medical autonomy. The Lindsay Clancy social media frenzy is jeopardizing that

I started following this trial fully supportive of Lindsay Clancy, expecting this to be another case of systemic failure to treat a post-partum woman. I believed 2 things: 1.) she had been failed by the healthcare system and 2.) she murdered her children in a psychosis state. For the latter, I'm still reserving judgement since the defense has yet to present their case.

But regarding point #1, it's becoming increasingly apparent to me that the social media arguments I'm seeing regarding the failure of doctors & healthcare professionals is deeply flawed.

1.) "why didn't Patrick attend Lindsay's appointments?"

Lindsay is a grown woman with medical rights and privacy. This is not the 1800s where husbands were required to attend and make all medical decisions for their wives.

2.) "why didn't Tufts call Lindsay's parents or Patrick?"

...Lindsay is a grown woman with medical rights and privacy. This is not the 1800s where women cannot be trusted and require a phone call home.

3.) "Dr. Tufts should have insisted for in-person appointments instead of Telehealth."

Lindsay is a grown woman with medical rights & autonomy. She could also have requested in-person appointments if she felt it necessary.

4.) "Dr.Tufts should have realized the dire state Lindsay was in."

Lindsay is a grown woman with autonomy and free speech. If she did not report her symptoms honestly for whatever reason (I acknowledge that there is some nuance here), a doctor cannot mind read.

What's the alternative? That doctors begin to sequester every mentally ill patient? Every woman that comes with post-partum issues because they could *potentially* be withholding information?

5.) "She was on a cocktail of medications. How could her doctors do that?"

Lindsay is a grown woman with autonomy. These are medications that Lindsay insisted she be put on because she would not give any treatment plan more than a week of time before stopping due to side effects and requesting something new. She also saw different medical practitioners simultaneously out of her own free will.

6.) "Dr. Tufts should have called her other doctors and spoken to them about her treatment plans."

Lindsay is a grown woman with autonomy. A doctor has to trust the word of their patient regarding what they report. This is common practice. Any time you're prescribed a new medication, your doctor will ask if there's any existing prescription you're taking to determine interaction. They don't go calling every single one of your medical providers. Lindsay is no different because...she's a grown woman and should be trusted.

And so on. So many of these arguments that I'm seeing completely eradicate a woman's right to medical privacy and independence. We have fought HARD to be able to make our own choices without needing a husband or father or a guardian to dictate or oversee every single one of our choices.

Why are we suddenly treating Lindsay any different? Even patients with mental illness deserve medical privacy and autonomy EXCEPT in the explicit cases where they express suicidal ideation or harm to others. Lindsay expressed neither of those to her doctors.

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u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 7 days ago

Resnick's research about Malingered Psychosis, yet he's listed as an expert for the defense?

This has been bugging me for some time. Resnick has some pretty well-known research regarding malingered psychosis (basically exaggerated or fabricated psychosis claims)

Much of his research (like this screenshot) seem to fit LC's history, as far as what we know so far. Yet he's listed as a key expert for the defense.

So I'm wondering, if he's supposed testify on behalf of LC, it would go against a lot of his research unless he believes she had a history of hallucinations that she did not disclose or document to anyone? I know the trial is still quite preliminary so we don't have all the information but based on all of the witness testimonies so far, there's been no indication that LC had symptoms of psychosis.

My only theory so far is that the intrusive thoughts she kept mentioning were actually hallucinations that she did not label correctly?

Thoughts?

u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 11 days ago

People are legitimately unhinged

This post got nearly 10k likes. I simply cannot comprehend how it's possible for so many people to be this dense.

To anyone that really believes this, do you really think highly skilled law enforcement would not have investigated every possible avenue in regards to the husband? Spouses are always scrutinized in cases like this. His whereabouts were extensively searched and corroborated.

The defense has made ZERO claims that she was being framed and innocent. Reddington is a popular defense lawyer with a reputable background. Do you not think that he'd have explored this Avenue if there was even the smallest modem of truth to it?

I say ALL of this as someone who still somewhat leans on the defense's case of LC being clinically insane (ofc, still open to changing my mind with new evidence), so no, I am not entirely anti-LC yet.

But seeing crap like this is so infuriating because it shows that women cannot accept other women's atrocities. This makes us collectively look stupid and silly

u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 15 days ago

PSA: Without a Fuss BST Group is shut down as of today (instead of August 1st)

Since there has been no formal announcement by the group admins, PSA for everyone that the main admin has decided to shut down the group as of today, instead of August 1st like she originally posted yesterday.

She has removed the remaining admin team and paused the group while her and her husband are now manually removing each member, so be sure to take any screenshots of existing sales and posts before you're removed from the group!

I believe she was receiving threats and her business started getting harassed and so decided to shut down the group earlier.

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u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 22 days ago

FMC the only woman in a "Brotherhood"

Hi, this is a bit of an ultra-specific request. Does anyone have an recommendations for an FMC that is part of or works for an all-male brotherhood of warriors/wizards/sorcerer's? She doesn't have to be a warrior or some badass fighter, but I would like her to be smart/cunning

Looking for:

-smart & likeable FMC (prefer if she's politically/mentally/street smart vs a physical fighter)

-Brotherhood are well-known & famous/legendary warriors that need FMCs help

-slow burn and low spice preferably

-found family dynamics

-a reluctant FMC + dislikes the men would be chef's kiss

- no vampires please

-would prefer fantasy but urban fantasy is fine too

Think the FMC (Maggie) from TKWNKM but forced to help a brotherhood like the Black Dagger Brotherhood but in a more medieval/old school setting instead of modern.

Thank you!!!

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u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 25 days ago

MCs possessing an ounce of self-preservation: a concept

When a car is rapidly approaching me, my first instinct is to watch it approach, then close my eyes and brace for impact. Not, idk, MOVE OUT OF THE WAY

😭😭

Book is {Nightshade by Autumn Woods}

u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 3 months ago

Books like {This Kingdom Will Not Kill Me} PLEASE

I'm in one of the worst book hangovers I've ever experienced. I have reread this book an embarrassing amount of times. I'm looking for a book with similar vibes that have the following:

  • heavy on the political intrigue/machinations

  • strong romance sub-plot with a dynamic similar to Maggie & MMC (SLOWWWW BURN is a big bonus)

  • a smart, likeable and balanced FMC like Maggie

  • found family and likeable/hilarious side characters are a huge bonus

I've read most of Ilona Andrews catalogue. I've also read Mages of the Wheel (loved the politics but wasn't a huge fan of the romance in these books)

Please please please please please please

u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 3 months ago

Me after finishing TKWNKM

I NEED book 2. I haven't felt this strongly about a book in years. I literally don't feel like reading anything else

I finished this book around 3 weeks ago and I'm already on my 4th reread 😭

I love Maggie. She's become one of my all-time fav FMCs. Same with the MMC. I love each and every single side character. The found family vibes in this are so wholesome. I love how much depth each character has and how natural all the interactions are (no forced dialogue)

I've read most of Ilona Andrew's catalogue and this is by far my absolute favorite book by them.

Does anyone have any other recommendations for political fantasy with a strong romance (and slow burn) subplot?

u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 3 months ago

THIS KINGDOM WILL NOT KILL ME HAS RUINED ME

I read this book a month ago and I've since reread it 3 times. It is simply phenomenal.

The politics and scheming was chef's kiss. The characters were so well written with so much depth. Very strong found family vibes. The romance was the perfect slow-burn.

It felt like stepping into the world of Game of Thrones and then watching the behind the scenes of one of the side characters scheming to get their end results. I loved seeing all the twists and turns and the way Maggie set events into motion.

Maggie is one of the best FMCs I've ever read. She is smart, cunning, determined, and kind-hearted. She knows her strengths and weaknesses and I loved how she asserted her dominance and skills without being overbearing.

The MMC is just...something else. He is one of the closest characters that have scratched my Aragorn wish. Strong, protective, honorable, loyal with good leadership qualities (he's a tad bit more arrogant than Aragorn tho)

I did find the first 100 pages a bit difficult because of all the info-dumping but everything after that just kept getting better and better.

Loved loved loved this book. Highly recommend it!

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u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 3 months ago

This is a spoilery review! I also mean no disrespect or shade to anyone that loved this book!

With the disclaimers aside, I initially rated this a 3.5/5 but the more I think about it, the more I find things to critique. I really enjoyed the first 50%. I seriously thought this was going to be a 5 star book for me.

The second half had some problems that I'm finding hard to overlook and it may partly be because I saw so many glowing reviews on Goodreads and this sub that raved about how strong the FMC was and how great the friendship between Kenna & Lara was.

My problems:

1.) Kenna has wits and survival skills, sure, but the only reason she's even alive is because of Caedo, the magical dagger she found in the bog. Right off the bat, If it hadn't been for that dagger, she would have ended up in the same horrid situation as Anya and the other human girls and likely died.

This isn't the only instance where the dagger saved her life. She goes down to speak with the Nasties to investigate about the Blood House trial and nearly gets ambushed. She only survives because of Caedo. Similarly, during the Earth trial, her and Lara only survive because Caedo kills Garrick when both girls are ambushed. She also nearly walked into a fatal ward if it weren't for Caedo alerting her of it.

I know there's always a certain element of luck and help for many protagonists, but this just felt like her entire survival was due to Caedo.

2.) Kenna's sexual assault at the hands of Garrick was handled so poorly imo. Sure, most of the fae don't view humans as people so no one except Kellan did anything.

But Lara was RIGHT there and did nothing and Kenna forgives her instantly. Like wtf??? Instead, Kenna releases all of her rage onto Kellan, the ONLY person who stood up for her and stopped the assault.

There's also 0 mention of this assault afterwards, neither are any of the psychological after effects from being assaulted shown. It's like Kenna was never assaulted. I feel like this scene was only crafted to show that Kellan is actually a good person, which is wrong on so many levels. I really wish SA was handled properly in books and not just as a plot point to elevate an MMC.

3.) Do not get me started on Lara. This is supposed to be a good example of female friendships?? Lara is so passive and weak. She did NOTHING on her own. The only reason she survived any trial is because of Kenna.

Maybe her utter lack of competence could be overlooked if she had some redeeming qualities. But even her supposed "friendship" to Kenna was flawed. Kenna is getting SA'd in front of Lara and Lara does NOTHING. This is NOT a girl who is a "friend". I don't care how naive or weak Lara is supposed to be, a friend, or any good person, does not sit and watch someone else get assaulted. Even Una, a member of a different house, did more to help Kenna in this situation than Lara did.

Not to mention, Lara's younger brother Selwyn is egalitarian and wants better conditions for all in Mistei. When this is brought up and it's mentioned that Selwyn visits the servants quarters often, Lara's words are literally:

"Why am I not surprised? I'm sure he feels quite nicely about visiting the servants. It's easy for him to support equality when he's still benefiting from being a lord. I wonder if he would actually enjoy a world where everyone was equal."

What in the utter tone-deafness? No Lara babes, maybe he actually is a good person that views everyone as equal?? If Lara was meant to be a morally grey or even unlikeable character, it's one thing. But Kenna constantly calls her a friend and almost all reviews Ive read talk about how amazing it was to see Kenna and Lara's friendship.

Lara is spoiled and incompetent and she's done next to nothing to stand up for her "friend" while Kenna does everything to her. Not to mention, a forced servant-mistress friendship isn't something praiseworthy.

4.) Kenna's complete trust in Drustan despite obvious red flags (which Kenna also noticed! There were multiple instances where she feared his mood) but mistrusted Kellan repeatedly over every small thing did not make sense to me. I know Kenna is supposed to be somewhat naive regarding relationships. But she nit-picked everything about Kellan but glazed over everything Drustan said or did simply because she had the hots for him. Do people do this in real life? Yes of course. But it was insufferable to read at times.

I'm a bit disappointed with this book the more I think about it. I don't like leaving negative reviews on Goodreads because I know how much work authors put into their work, so as always, I'm using Reddit to share my thoughts and vent.

If you've read this far, thanks and open to hearing your thoughts! :)

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u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 4 months ago

I really enjoyed this book! The world and politics were very interesting, the side characters were enjoyable, I loved all the friendships and I thought Kenna as an FMC was very likeable.

My biggest complaint, though, is about the romance with Drustan and Kenna's relationship with him. She's otherwise very smart and realistically doesn't trust anyone in Mistei, which is why I found her trust in Drustan a bit absurd. She realizes the games the fae play and seems to recognize that others can have hidden agendas but she didn't think to feel the same way about Drustan? She put so much blind faith in him and look how that turned out.

I found the chemistry so weak between them. Yes he was nice to her but she never stopped to think why a noble fae, especially a prince of a house, would take so much interest in her right off the bat. I felt like most of what she felt for him was just physical attraction and nothing else.

I understand that the author was doing the whole bait & switch but I felt like her relationship with him was just too unrealistic and naive. The story would have been just as good if the whole Drustan romance subplot had been cut out.

Loved everything about Kellan though! Anyways, can't wait to read book 2. I think I'm overall just a bit tired of the bait & switch tactic.

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u/Alive_Obligation7475 — 4 months ago