Getting bullied into quitting?
I’ve worked at my job for over two years and I find each day it’s getting harder and harder to show up because of bullying. For reference I work in childcare and Ive grown such a bond with all these kids that it makes me horribly sad to think I might have to literally quit and leave them because of coworkers and my boss’ antics. For starters, I have a boss and she has a directors assistant that works directly under her. When I was hired the owner/director (my boss) was out of town and the directors assistant was the one who hired me. When I met my boss for the first time she was incredibly rude to me and I feel like she may have judged me because of my weight (I’m 300lbs) which honestly didn’t bother me because I know I’m a good worker and I like to see people get proved wrong when it comes to the quality of work they think I’ll do. However things only got worse about 6 months in. Because it’s childcare people constantly get sick and call out and because I was new I felt that it was my job to stand up and fill in where I could, try and make a good impression especially since I could feel that no one really liked me. So I singlehandedly covered EVERYONES shifts where I could for another 6 months straight. I would work sometimes open to close 10-12 hours a day. But then I started getting in trouble for that too because they were paying out too much overtime to me so my boss started saying that I can’t take anyone’s shifts if it puts me over 50 hours. Well then I had to start telling people no and once that happened everything got so. Much. Worse. Like I had no purpose anymore. I work in a room with toddlers and two to three other teachers. One of those teachers is an avid.. call outer? They hate me so much they won’t even acknowledge me if I speak, so I’m quiet all day apart from talking and taking care of the kids. Recently though they teamed up with my other coworkers and the bullying has been so bad I’ve spent time crying in the bathroom or my car. I come in every day and there’s breakfast, toys, garbage all over the floor in the eating area (which is supposed to be cleaned up by the openers) and as soon as I get there they take the kids outside to play and leave me to clean it even though it’s not my job. I’m also the mid day person so I have to clean lunch (the messiest meal of the day) which we have 18 toddlers and it’s supposed to be a two person job but my other two coworkers leave me to get the kids cleaned up, changed, then clean up their entire food mess entirely alone while they sit and play with kids on the floor. Same thing with anytime a kid has a poopy diaper, they make me change it with some excuse why they can’t. If things happen in the morning, it’s never communicated to me and then I end up getting in trouble with parents and I’m completely blindsided at the end of the day. I’ve tried to talk to my boss and she said that I need to talk to them myself because we’re “all adults” but I feel like I am the ONLY one doing anything. My coworkers get to sit and play with the kids but any activities I don’t get to participate only clean up the mess, lunch clean it up, poopy diapers, clean that up, take out all the heavy cots and set them out while also trying to change 18 diapers back to back got it no problem 😪. These aren’t things I can just choose not to do as well because as much as I want to be petty I have so much love for these kids that I don’t want them to have to suffer either. This whole thing breaks my heart and I just really want to know what is it about me that makes people hate me at work so much when I’m showing up every single day, doing more than my fair share of work. I’m friendly, I don’t stink. Is it just because I’m overweight? Oh and for the first time in two entire years I requested 4 days off 2 months in advance so I could go back to visit family I haven’t seen since 2024 and it got denied because the directors assistant needs just ONE of those days off to go to her sisters baby shower