My (25f) boyfriend's (28M) dog is dying. How can I handle it better?
Side note : first post here so I apologize for any mistakes.
My bf of 3 years has a dog that is dying of both bone and blood cancer. We thought she sprained her shoulder but it's terminal. Her bone in her right front leg is weaker, and the X-ray her both looks like a moth ate holes in it everywhere in her shoulder. If she broke her front leg, there wouldn't be a way to mend it, even surgery. Her body's response to this is calcifying her muscles to give support to the bone, preventing movement without pain, and causing inflammation (swelling) around her shoulder blade.
Her blood cancer is in her spleen with masses, the vet said any force could make them rupture and she would bleed out internally. The next stage would be in her heart.
She is on long term medications, cause surgery isn't an option, with how old she is (a senior dog) and the blood cancer complicates things. She is on 3 different medications currently, we can add a fourth but it has a sedated effect. It's been almost 4 weeks.
He keeps making comments (when she first started her meds and suddenly her limp was gone) like "look it's like she's getting better" (she's not, it's terminal) and more recently, "she's still eating, so everything is okay!" (She's a little pig when it comes to food, she will almost eat anything even till she barfs) I keep telling him "you don't want my opinion" or "I'm gonna keep my thoughts to myself" and agrees that he doesn't want to hear what my true thoughts are. We agreed at the vet appointment that if it was cancer we need to put her down, but he's just prolonging it.
I don't know how to handle it anymore, I hate being home and seeing her limp around. I could just come home to a dead dog at any point. I don't want to force him, or fight him about her, but I feel depressed and it's really putting a strain on our relationship. Every time I bring it up he doesn't entertain any idea of her suffering, I shut down in response.
TLDR: my bf's elderly dog is dying of cancer, bf doesn't want to put her down, because she still eats. Relationship is getting strained because of it. How can I handle this better?