u/Allen_Howard

Think she would reach out

My ex broke things off with me because she said “she’s not mentally ready for a relationship” but the real reason was come to find out that the intimacy was to much and it made her loose all attractiveness for me and because I was her first body and we had consensual intercourse 3 times for 3 weekends in a row and not once did she speak up and say it was not what she wanted. Our mutual friend tried talking to her on how she should have communicated but my ex put it as I should have noticed the signs (becoming distant) which is ironic because I did ask her if everything was OK and she said yes. I was my ex’s first for intercourse, showering together, skin to skin everything was great.

A week later I found out she’s already talking someone new…. My ex and this kid talked last summer for 2 months but broke it off not once hung out. Me and my friend group know of this kid and none of us like him because of who he is, 2 years ago he was a man wh$re, drunk, parties a lot, likes to have his way when it comes to sexual things. Like 2 years ago one of the girls in my friend group was in his truck sitting and he recorded her cleavage, but now apparently he’s changed not a single girl in his phone. What’s is astonishing is that my ex posted a story with 3 pictures on it one was him and her, her and another girl and then the entire group they were with. She posted it on her public Snapchat story because she only has me unadded on snap but not text, insta, TikTok, etc. I didn’t see it because I know that’s what she wants probably but she checks all my stories. She still stalks all my stories and is the first to see them

As days go on I’m becoming less attracted to her, but everyone keeps telling me that eventually at some point she’s going to end up reaching out

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u/Allen_Howard — 4 days ago

Could she return

Me and this girl started talking back in February, asked her to be my girlfriend on 4/3/26 and everything is great but just last night she hit me with this and I notice that she has been a little off.

“these past few days i've been thinking a lot and i just think things happened to fast i don't think im mentally ready for a relationship right now. i want you to be happy but i cant make you happy if im not happy myself, you genuinely deserve the best your such a good guy and deserve way better. im so sorry allen im just not in the place right now to love you and be with you. please just know you did absolutely nothing wrong, you are one of the sweetest guys i've ever met, im just so stuck and need to focus on myself and getting my life to where i want it before i focus on a relationship.”

I know it only a short time but I still have heart for this girl and im not going to wait on her at all but if she did reach out I’d take it.

And the next morning she woke up, texting her best friend crying, saying her that she feels terrible, how she shouldn’t have done it and that she just don’t know what to do. I was her first on intimacy, showering together, and sleeping skin to skin

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u/Allen_Howard — 13 days ago

Me and this girl started talking back in February, asked her to be my girlfriend on 4/3/26 and everything is great but just last night she hit me with this and I notice that she has been a little off.

“these past few days i've been thinking a lot and i just think things happened to fast i don't think im mentally ready for a relationship right now. i want you to be happy but i cant make you happy if im not happy myself, you genuinely deserve the best your such a good guy and deserve way better. im so sorry allen im just not in the place right now to love you and be with you. please just know you did absolutely nothing wrong, you are one of the sweetest guys i've ever met, im just so stuck and need to focus on myself and getting my life to where i want it before i focus on a relationship.”

I know it only a short time but I still have heart for this girl and im not going to wait on her at all but if she did reach out I’d take it.

And the next morning she woke up, texting her best friend crying, saying her that she feels terrible, how she shouldn’t have done it and that she just don’t know what to do.

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u/Allen_Howard — 19 days ago

Me and this girl started talking back in February, asked her to be my girlfriend on 4/3/26 and everything is great but just last night she hit me with this and I notice that she has been a little off.

“these past few days i've been thinking a lot and i just think things happened to fast i don't think im mentally ready for a relationship right now. i want you to be happy but i cant make you happy if im not happy myself, you genuinely deserve the best your such a good guy and deserve way better. im so sorry allen im just not in the place right now to love you and be with you. please just know you did absolutely nothing wrong, you are one of the sweetest guys i've ever met, im just so stuck and need to focus on myself and getting my life to where i want it before i focus on a relationship.”

I know it only a short time but I still have heart for this girl and im not going to wait on her at all but if she did reach out I’d take it.

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u/Allen_Howard — 22 days ago