AITAH for potentially putting my little brother on the registered s3x offenders list
For context I (18F) have disabilitating depression along with other mental illnesses that id rather not disclose. My little brother (14M) has a girlfriend who we can call Tiki (15F). Tiki and my brother have been dating off and on since he was 13 and she was 14.
Id like to say I dont think IATAH i think I made a mistake because im human. Ill keep this as short and story line as possible with no opinions.
I was feeling extra down in the dumps Friday night (last day of school before summers out) and I went through my typical coping mechanisms. Most of them were not working so I went to my last resort. I called 988, (Ive struggled with my mental health since I was 13 and my dad passed away.) Now ive called them plenty of times before and I only called because I had a su!cidal ideation, and thats how it starts for me. One idea that builds up and up until I break, so I got scared and called. My counselor was a really nice lady and I loved talking to her. I admitted that I had a few cuts but I wasnt trying to d!e and she coached me through it. Eventually we ended up just talking and I told her the story that follows.
"About 6 months ago I was hanging out with a friend in my room, Tiki bursts in. Doesn't knock doesnt check its okay just runs in flinging open my door. She looks me dead in the eyes and says
'Allah ***I*** decided that me and your brother, {brothers name} are asexual'
I was stunned about the 'I decided.' Not we, I alone decided. So she continued
'Yeah we just dont really like sex'
and without a second thought I clapped back 'miss girl you just dont like sex with *EACHOTHER*. also wtf you asked me for condoms not even yesterday??'
She got angry and left the room. "
That was all I said regarding this situation to the counselor, but she had a file on me and say that my brother was 4 years younger then me, she didnt say anything to me at all about the technical r@pe because they are both under the age of consent.
The cop shows up at my house talks to me about it, "Allah, do you truly belive they have had s3x? They are minors"
"Yes sir, I have no proof but I have no reason to not trust them because they told me they have, they've asked me for condoms and I cant stop them, stupid teenagers you know? So I might aswell make sure my brother is safe."
He explains to me that he has to report it and my brother and his girlfriend can get serious charges and be forced to never see eachother again. I choke on the water i was drinking because I started crying earlier in the conversation (he brought up my dad) and I end up throwing up infront of him. I apologize as I clean it up (it was mostly water) and he tells me that I need to grow up and stop spreading rumors that I cant prove.
I love Tiki and I love my brother. Tiki and me havent always gotten along but that doesnt change the fact I love her.
Am I the a$$hole for accidentally reporting my brother and his girl for r@ping eachother even though it was consentual and I didnt mean to report it?