Is this gaslighting?
My husband does this every so often, and in-between he is a charning husband and father, so when he does these things it really throws me off. I'm noticing the pattern now, and he seems to be repeating how his mother was with him as a child. (Likes to ruin enjoyable moments)
Anyways, we went a friend's party where my husband told me to have some drinks and have fun, he will be the DD. All went well, I was feeling good but not overly tipsy. On our ride back, my daughter pointed out that the moon looked interesting. I told her I'd look up why it was that way. Well according to my husband, I looked up the wrong information and he was annoyed at how "drunk" I was. I tried re-reading what I looked up but he didn't want to hear it, I was wrong. The whole ride home he kept chirping me about being so intoxicated. I felt fine and coherent so that was really getting me upset. I got the kids to sleep and he continued on about it, until we went to sleep. The next day he ignored me all day, he said I should think about how I behaved the night before and apologize to our daughter for what I said. I said what did I say besides talk about the moon? He said "See, you were too drunk to remember" and then he ignored me again for the rest of the evening. Bought dinner for him & the kids and left me out.
I'm starting to think that I am not allowed to have fun, have opinions etc. unless he's okay with it.
This kind of fight happens every couple of months and it's usually something very trivial.
If anything throws off plans that he had in his head, he's mad at everyone.
My father was like this and I wanted to marry someone completely opposite, now it's feeling too similar.
He can be manipulative, so I am afraid if I leave, he will alienate my from our children :(