u/AlpsNo3537

I made a post last week about opinions about couples counseling. I really read over every comment like 10 times and took a few to heart and.....

I don't know what to say after it.

My soon to be ex picked the counselor which is her counselor that she's been seeing for a year.

Kinda made things feel not neutral to me, I didn't it until he mentioned it early in the session.

He asked me why we are here and I said because my wife doesn't love me and then silence for like 5 mins. It was awkward

He had us then do an exercise where we stand close facing each other looking deeply in each other's "3rd eye" my wife kept saying " I'm gonna fight for you " I was hit with a ton of bricks because where was this behavior the past 3 years .... awkward again

Then it moved to another exercise where he wanted us to kiss each others forehead, check, lip, chin 3x each and we did like 3 rounds of that. I just felt like what am I doing here.

We sat down and asked us both to only talk about positive things about the future. I mentioned her affair that is a road block to that way of thinking and he said " no no no, don't bring that up. We will get to that when we are at a good point in our relationship" lol what

He asked us to do the kissing exercise every day till Wednesday ( our next session) and it was over

I'm just lol what the hell did I just sit thru.

Anyone else had a similar experience?

EDIT UPDATE:

Forgot to include in original post. I left the home earlier for 2 days and sat down with a lawyer ( thanks to people in this sub for convincing me that was a stupid idea... My lawyer told me to move back in asap )

I took his business card after the session and looked him up for license and creds... And yes he is a licensed family therapist.

Soon to be ex wants to go to couples counseling. She asked me to go a few times during the past 2 years but I refused . I really don't see it helping. As a last ditch effort I agreed to go. Our 1st session in next Friday. So any advice? Pros ? Cons ?

I can see myself being very defensive, and looking at the therapist as an enemy.

My lawyer suggested I do a solo session, just to try it out fur a few times. Solo I'm think I will be more at aese with.

Any thoughts, help a brother out

Don't really post on Reddit, but I really feel lost. I'm scared of judgement from friends and family and not really sure what to do.

As the title says I'm leaving my wife at 9pm tonight. She's returning from a conference tonight. I have a bag backed with everything I need for the next few days in the truck of my car and a hotel booked.

Just not so sure of what to expect, that's giving me anxiety.

Slight background : wife is a stay at home mom, 1 little one under 3. HCOL area. I'm thinking of renting a room for a few months and then try to sell our house? But can she stop us from selling? I would still pay for everything home related I don't mind, but trying to manage two households on one salary seems dreadful.

Any thoughts or tips on what /how/ why to prepare in the upcoming future.

Thanks my dudes