My boyfriend said something weird yesterday
Dinner: Delicious garlic knots from &pizza
Context: My boyfriend (23M) and I (22F) have been together for 5 years now. He has his own friend group from work and he prefers I don't join as he wants to have his own friend group. this stems from always sharing friends since high school. I always try to invite him to go out with us but he refuses, and I don't ask about joining his. I don't mind either because he tells me about everything that happens.
*Yesterday my boyfriend and I went to a cat cafe and we met this nice girl who was volunteering. She's new to the city and hasn't done much exploring yet. I do a good job of making friends and creating connections so when my boyfriend suggested I invite her to my outings and show her around. I thought cool cool.
Where I feel ???? is when he says she should hang out with HIS friend group whenever they hang out since they the area too. In my head I thought "huh, you don't ever think about me when it comes to hanging out with your friends..." I probably sound crazy.
Anywho!! The other thing i wanted to share was that he didn't count our outing to the cat cafe as a date!! I asked him if he was excited for our little date and he said "he wouldn't consider that a date," and I know what he does consider a date, which is a fancy restaurant with nice outfits or fancy outings of that sort. And btw, in our 5 years of dating he has NEVER taken me out on his "ideal date" so idk what he even wants 😭
Sorry for the long rant. Maybe I'm thinking too deep into it. I definitely plan on bringing it up to him... at some point.