I feel incredibly invalidated when trying to explain my condition to other people. What to do?
I am recently diagnosed with inattentive ADHD, which has given me a lot of clarity to why my life has been the way it is. However, I seem to be unable to convey my struggles to other people, which leads to a lot of invalidation.
For example, my mom still calls me lazy, saying that ADHD is not a big deal since 'many celebrities have it.' My dad called me immature because I broke down after suddenly being asked to do something that would require a lot of planning and effort.
Recently, I was looking at university accommodations, and they had a page with studying tips for ADHD that I genuinely found some of them laughable (e.g. "Use a well-structured agenda," "Avoid doing things at the last minute"), and I casually said to my roommate "these tips make me want to gag." She then said to me: "this is the reason why it is so hard to talk to you sometimes." She went on to say that these were genuinely good tips that just happen to "go against my desires," and would be helpful if I actually followed them. She then kept using words to downplay the effects, such as that ADHD makes life "slightly harder," and that I should not be suprised that life is just a bit harder when I am diagnosed with an impairment. I was honestly pretty pissed and upset.
Genuinely how do you guys deal with incidences like these? I feel very alone, and like other people are just doubling down on the "you are just lazy" narrative. If I react negatively (like crying), then I am told that I "need to do more work in therapy." I actually makes me so mad and makes me want to hate other people, while I don't like having that attitude.