Reaching O feels painful. Is this normal?
Throwaway bc I don’t want this on my main. I’m a 20F that grew up in a pretty conservative environment, so conversations about sex or masturbation were basically nonexistent. As a result, I have really bad anxiety about penetrative masturbation and would only hump/grind against things.
I’ve had a couple of sexual partners, but I’m still a penetrative virgin (as in P in V). All of them have been pretty respectful about this and in the meantime make sure to focus on oral or fingering. However, during this time I find myself experiencing an overwhelming amount of tension down there, especially when fingered. It’s not even a good type of pain, and usually when I find myself getting more and more tense, I have to ask them to stop because I geniunely can’t take it anymore.
I know that muscle tension is a part of climaxing but I don’t think it should hurt this much. One of my partners have mentioned how tight I am even with the right arousal. I feel like approaching my climax should be more pleasurable than anything. Thoughts or suggestions?