I got this free dresser on fbmp to restore. There’s no other major issues except this one thing. I saw that the dresser lip was lifting. I don’t mind a challenge and learning something new. I never ran into this issue before. It’s lifting everywhere but one corner. How do I go about repairing this? Any and all tips are welcomed. Sorry for the bad lighting.
I had one of the most unproductive and frustrating experiences I’ve had in therapy today. I couldn’t imagine having this conversation in person by the way it ended so I’m glad it was virtual this time.
I was feeling pretty good during beginning of the session. I didn’t have much to talk about initially but as we talked more things popped up in my mind about things I been meaning to discuss with her. I loved my therapist for my ptsd, depression and anxiety. She’s good for that but when it comes to racial issues? Terrible. When I first started seeing her about few years ago I was in need to talk to someone about parts of my non-racial trauma.
Recently, I’ve been experiencing more racism from my mother. I didn’t go into therapy thinking my therapist would understand my experiences but maybe offer some sort of introspection? Maybe I was too hopeful.
All she kept reiterating was that “People who have experienced a lot of trauma that you had, have a hard time finding community. Keep putting yourself out there and meeting more people.” WOW. Thanks. So helpful. Not I wonder what racial trauma that your mother has impacted on you. Can you tell me more about that.
What started to make me feel even more invalided that she was like so your mom is racist but dates black men? Looking at me confused. YES BITCH. You can be fucking racist and still date poc. Racial fetishist exist and my mother is one of them. Just because she’s not throwing out racial slurs doesn’t mean she’s not racist. It didn’t seem plausible to her.
We also discussed about me making friends. I’ve been actively trying to make more friends and put myself out there consistently. We talked about queer people and “allies”. I flat out told her tbh with you I don’t want any straight friends. I want to surround myself with other queer, poc. She asked me why and I said honestly a lot of “allies” are not really allies. They’re just ok with queer people kissing and thats fine, but I don’t want them in my life. That’s not an ally to me.
I brung up an example of a straight couple having a wedding and they invited their trans mtf “friend” to be there groomsman….they wanted to have her wear a men’s suit, not a dress, not even a women’s suit but a men’s suit. Not even a bridesmaid too mind you. They didn’t want her to stand out.
Then we got into politics and she was yapping to me about how things are not so black and white. I was out of it. Visibly irritated, arms crossed and not even looking at the screen.
Anyway, rant over 🙃