hi i’m an international student and i left dental school midway because i didn’t enjoy it and now i’m starting over a different degree in australia but I’m worried if I’m gonna be an outcast ? i’m 25 and doing an undergrad 🥺🥺
- I was super excited but now im worried about my age
i’m soon 26….all my life i wanted med school so bad. I was supposed to get into med school directly after high school but i was distracted so i didn’t get in then later i got in for graduate med ….it was okay in the beginning but later i started to get bullied and made fun of so i couldn’t handle so i withdrew now I’m back home and have no skills ….so i regret leaving . I have no idea why was i panicking so much 😭 i suffered for years for this opportunity and let it all go because of few people who made my life hard ?? now i think im a leech to my family so i worry what to do like my pre med is also not that useful for jobs and i still want med (but i worry about being bullied again and being too dependent)
I have 2 options..med here or masters abroad. I’m always confused and don’t really trust myself. I’m also getting older so i worry if i’m wasting my time. (I’m 25)
I’ve had bad experiences for years now I’m lost…I’m 25 and literally a loser ! i regret all the time…I withdrew from law school due to worry about failing now I’m more lost and restless like what do i even do with my life ? I’m scared I’ll make more mistakes
everyone knows I left law school so now I’m viewed as a old loser
i feel really old 🥺…i feel very behind too
i’ve been told to become a doctor since i was small…i was bullied in pre med so u transferred to another school and within week 2 my life was hard. I’m 25 soon 26 and i really just want a peace of mind but my family who i love has always been obsessed with doctor ! so they seem disappointed that i’m not a doctor. I really don’t know what to do with my life because I feel empty that I’m not a doctor yet but again i’m afraid to study medicine because i think im not smart enough (so my family is disappointed) and I have many enemies and relatives that don’t want me to become a doctor lol ….idk how to find a job since my pre med is biology (I find it useless) ….I want to feel alive . currently I’m so lost and deeply empty inside plus I’m worried I’ll be 30 and unemployed.
stuff I love to do : sports, traveling, water activities, cleaning and organizing, solving problems, day dreaming 🥺
I want to think positive but since I’m asian, I feel 25 is too
old 🥺 and I feel scared at night lol
just a question 🙏
I honestly don’t know if this is resentment, grief, burnout, or all of them combined.
when I was around 18, I got heavily pushed into medicine. Nobody really asked me what I wanted to study. It was always things like:
“Doctors are respected.”
“You’ll have status.”
“You’ll feel proud of yourself.”
“It’s a secure future.”
“biology is the easiest as everything is related with your body” lol
and they would get sad when i used to tell them “i can’t do it” like they won’t believe me at all.
So I went along with it because I was young and didn’t really know how to stand up for myself back then.
I took multiple gap years and eventually got into med school in my early 20s. I already felt out of place because I was older than most students, and over time people started making comments/jokes about my age which messed with me more than I expected. I ended up leaving because it was too much.
Now I’m back home and mentally exhausted. What hurts is that my family now act like:
“Well, you can stop dreaming about being a doctor.” you had the chance but you wore too busy getting distracted by others…
But I don’t even think becoming a doctor was ever *my* dream. I think it was theirs.
Now I feel stuck because I’m old and the idea of starting over in another field feels embarrassing. I keep imagining being surrounded by 18-year-olds while everyone else my age seems established already. I also feel bitter that I lost years trying to live someone else’s version of a successful life.
Part of me thinks I should’ve left medicine much earlier, but another part knows I stayed because I was scared of disappointing everyone and felt like leaving would mean all those years were wasted.
I genuinely don’t know what I want anymore. I just know I feel tired, behind in life, and angry that I never really got to choose for myself.
since I’m home now …my family keeps saying “aren’t you scared ? “ “ why are you chilling and not doing anything” like omg i don’t even know how it feels to live and they keep asking me all these questions 😭….all i wanted was to study in a good university and get a degree….thats it like why complicate it by making it harder
I honestly think I ruined my life and there is no hope at all like how do i even be happy now ?
Has anyone else here had to completely restart in their mid-20s after realizing the path they were on was never actually yours?
I’m worried like I look back and think to myself “what the fuck was i doing ? “ ….I also have no idea what to do with my life and I’m the youngest of my family so I’m scared I’ll be forever dependent as I was too sheltered…I think if i had started living independently at 18 then I would be in a much better position now but it’s too late already 😭 and I still feel like a kid