Hello All..
I am looking for someone... His name is mark debnam and I used to work with him in York at a care company... He was at Uni at the time training to be a social worker...
Any help????
I'm tired of giving everything in my relationship with my partner. We have been together for nearly 6 years, and whilst he isn't a very well person (previously had active Crohn's disease and has a stoma), he is more than capable of carrying out daily activities that he wants to do, or taking interest in things that he wants to do...
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However, I clean the house daily, I do both of our laundry, I walk the dog, I manage his appointments, I go to the shop for him when needed and yet when I ask him to do simple things for me ... He doesn't.... He claims "he can't"... And is blaming it on his pain... Knowing obviously I'm not going to question that. I could understand if he helped me out sometimes, but he literally does nothing unless it benefits him. Which by the way, includes sex, he's quite happy to do that whenever, pain will never stop him.
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I'm getting physically and emotionally exhausted with it all, I love him, but I don't know how much longer I can take it. I have no time for my own relaxation anymore.
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Earlier he told me he'll only do stuff when he "has" to... Which made me very upset and angry... But he see this as it being my problem and I'm putting him down for being poorly... which I'm not.. all I'm asking for is 50/50 in the relationship
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I genuinely don't know what to do anymore. I feel deflated. Anyone had experience with this?
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Pelvic inflammatory disease... Anyone had any experience with this rubbish illness? Any natural remedies?...
Note: it was not caused by an STI. Most likely an ignored UTI as I get them recurrently due to a bifid kidney