u/Altruistic-Charge-96

I start. The pornhub beat. Usually with a caption like "I can't believe I sneaked in this beat in front of (add number) people"

What do you mean you can't believe? You just decided to do it. Don't you have free will? Is there a bigger entity that controlled you into announcing the world you like naughty websites?

Also it is a very normal 2 bar beat, and unless you pointed out that this is something you often listen to privately, no one would notice.

Bonus:

Also, the "everybody wants to rule the world" butchering :(

Bonus 2: Drummers smiling at the camera. Dude, you're doing too much, what are you smiling at?

Bonus 3: Female drummers who get lots of engagement by wearing skimpy clothes. And the comments like "You have amazing talent" or "perfect groove". No dude... that sounded so bad...

It really triggered some bad feelings I experienced as a teenager, when I had people banging violently on my garage door and threatening to kill me.

This time it wasn’t nearly that bad. The guy was clearly annoyed, but he politely asked if I realised how loud I was and whether I could close the window. I just want to point out that he lives fairly far from my flat—probably around 100–200 meters away.

For context: I live above a coffee shop that closes at 4pm. My neighbours on the opposite side of the building have never complained in the three years I’ve lived here, so I assumed my practice habits were reasonably tolerable. I usually don’t play for more than an hour, I play mostly jazz, and I practice on a bop kit.

What I found strange is that this morning my wife went downstairs to grab a coffee, and the barista (who knows us well) asked if she was local. My wife said yes, we live upstairs, and she replied, “Oh yeah… the drummer. We can hear him—I wouldn’t be happy if I were your neighbour.”

I understand that drums are loud, and I’ve spent most of my life worrying about bothering people, but that comment annoyed me. It’s not like people are coming there to nap. I’ve also tested it—when my wife goes into the café while I’m playing (and vice versa), we can’t actually hear the drums from inside. So it felt like a bit of an unnecessary comment, especially since she isn’t my neighbour.

Anyway, rant aside—what do I actually risk? Even though I try to be considerate, what are the potential consequences in the UK?

Lost 30 kg in 1 and a half year. Probably slower than the average user, and punctually pointed out by my family with comment like "oh but people get very skinny, you should have lost much more". I am let's say, 15 kg, maybe 20 away from my goal weight but I have plateaued. This is not my main concern though. My wife would like me to drop the medication, because she is concerned about the long term effects and of course, 300£ every month is quite a lot to spend.

Now reality is sort of hitting. I know that I am not being very disciplined with my diet, although luckily I have always been sort of a gym guy, so I enjoy working out... but I know I can and should improve my behaviour around food.

That said, I will probably need to come off gradually, probably by next year. I'd like to hear some successful stories of people who kept the weight off, and their advices, or maybe a cheaper alternative that actually works?

Thank you all.