AITA- Step-Mom addition
AITA? I have been step-Mom to my three kids There is no “step” when I talk about them, they are all my kids. I do not and never will expect them to call me anything other than what they are comfortable with. I have been with their Dad since they were 1, 5 and 8. They are now 15, 19 and 22. the two are home from college and this is “our weekend”, so I texted them a few days ago asking if they would be here all weekend, letting them know that I was going grocery shopping and wanted to make sure I had enough of all the things. When they are not here, it’s just the two of us now, so I barely keep things they like “on hand”. They all confirmed and I spent $350 at the grocery store, making sure we had some of their favorite, enough for dinners/breakfast/luch all weekend, drinks etc. About to cook dinner on night 2, and learned they aren’t going to be here. One hasn’t come over all weekend, one is leaving after just 1/2 day/1 night because they are doing things with their bio-Mom, which is 100% ok, but I am hurt by the fact that I spent time making the menu, shopping, getting their favorites (a lot of which my husband and I don’t even eat). AITA for feeling unappreciate? I made sure to ask ahead of time. Maybe I’m just in my post-menopausal feels. This is a pattern and I am tired of putting forth all the effort. I won’t stop doing, I just needed to vent and see if I am crazy. I am probably crazy.
ETA: it’s kind of been a pattern. Paid vacation rentals left empty, tickets to events purchased and not used, etc. Each time we ask, verify, ask again before committing and it still happens. I think as I enter this phase of life, I’m getting tired of feeling this way but I will have grace and carry on. Thank you for all the feedback. None of us are perfect and we can never make everyone happy, sometimes it’s hard.