Irish twins - tips to prepare
Our first baby turns 3 months old on Wednesday.
I had a positive pregnancy test yesterday morning
We used condoms…except for the few times we didn’t. We knew all the things, breastfeeding isn’t birth control, you can get pregnant before a period, etc (and we both have graduate level education in healthcare, so we KNOW).
But we’re also 35/43 and knew we wanted them close together so when we’d “slip up” we’d think, “eh, what’s the worst case? We get pregnant again?” We were planning to start actually trying in January anyway.
I will say, I had GD, but no complications. I had a 39wk induction for a “big baby” who ended up only being 7.6lbs. I had a “barely” second degree tear with a few stitches and felt totally healed by 4 weeks (still waited for my 6wk visit for the record lol)
Our first has been a dream, at 3months he sleeps 10hrs a night (~9-7) and has 3-4 solid contact naps (7hrs total) each day. I do not expect to be this lucky with the next lol.
We’re also blessed to have a pretty good village. Both grandmas live within 20min, my mom can help a few hours a day if needed (though my dad has alz and will need more of her attention in time) and my MIL babysits for my SIL but could still help sometimes. I have a really good friend who’s a SAHM two doors down who is also always offering to help. And my husband is a great, supportive, proactive, involved dad/partner.
But now I’m panicking lol worried about things I hadn’t thought about before, etc. so I have some questions
- did your doctor judge you when you went in? lol I’m expecting a lecture
- were there things you did differently before the second birth that helped you be more prepared?
- (We freezer meal prepped for the first one, and will do the same again)
- any products that actually saved you?
- (I started off breastfeeding but had DMER and it was hurting my mental health to nurse/pump so we switched to formula. Is the baby brezza worth it with two?)
- what gear was essential?
- I use a wrap carrier with little man already and love it, and we got the bugaboo kangaroo (converts to double) because we knew we’d have two close. We did not get an infant carrier with this one (straight to a rotating convertible). We’re thinking about getting a doona for ease of transporting too tinies at the same time (wear one, roll one) alone.
I’d love any other tips/tricks!!