I like a guy friend but I can’t tell if I have a chance at all
I honestly have no idea if I should even try shooting my shot or if it’s worth it:
I reconnected with an old acquaintance a year ago ironically to set one of my friends up with him (they didn’t end up connecting so they stopped talking), but we somehow kept in touch and became friends.
I always found him attractive but never considered dating him so I did bring up other guys in front of him at first (past relationships, cute guy I talked to, small things like that), but as more time passed, I realized I liked him and so I stopped mentioning other guys.
We always hang out one on one because we don’t have any close mutual friends and my friends keep telling me that he is interested in me but he’s just shy. I’m partially convinced but at the same time not convinced at all, because I feel like he has not made any obvious signs he would be interested in me, and my friends are going off of the very tiny “signs” that could just be delusion 😂
The biggest sign for me that he’s not interested is that he will occasionally bring up other girls, usually along the lines of “this cute girl in my class sat beside me today” or “these girls today asked for my social media” (he’s conventionally attractive). And I have no idea if he’s over his ex lol
One thing I will say is that he is not a player who fools around or leads girls on, but he is pretty shy and is not great about making the first move.
On the other hand, my friends think that he hasn’t considered me as an option because I know exactly what I want in life and pretty much have a stable future already planned out for myself, while he is still figuring things out career wise. This was something he and I talked about a long time ago as well, where he pretty much said he felt like we were in different worlds and we would work as friends but probably not in a relationship (he’s wasn’t talking about me he was talking about the friend I set him up with).
I really like him but I have no idea if I have any chance if I did confess to him, since I also don’t want to lose him as a friend. And I’m getting ahead of myself here, but is it worth trying a relationship with him if he doesn’t have his life figured out yet? Alternatively, how do I get over him quickly 😂