u/Amazing-Guidance-384

I know a lot of people got married in their 20s. But a lot of people around me, including my dad, thought there’s no reason for me to get married that young. When I was about 19 years old, I once said I wanted to get married before I turn 30. My dad couldn’t believe it that I wanted to get married that young. People have been saying I had all the time in the world, try to build up my career first and I could go find on somebody when I move to a bigger city. Even in my 30s, there were still people telling me there’s no reason to get married in a hurry. So I have been working on my career. When life got rough, dating has always been the one thing I could put to the back burner. I’m in my 40s, reaching a point basically where I can no chance to get married. Over the years I found out, in my 20s, it was a lot easier to find a date, even I wasn’t very good at dating. In my 30s. It got harder. In my 40s, it’s basically impossible to find somebody. Part of me wished I didn’t listen to what everybody else has been telling me. But it’s too late. So I just want to know is it really a good idea to focus on my career first, and worry about marriage later on? Only it was difficult to start a career when I ran into the 08 financial crisis at the beginning. That’s why I paid a lot more attention at my job at the time.