Argument advice
I need honest opinions on whether I handled this situation badly.
Me and two nursing school friends planned to go out to celebrate finishing school and Cinco de Mayo. My boyfriend was originally going to DD, but my friend “A” and I had already talked beforehand about how there were multiple people who could drive us home safely if needed.
One of A’s friends, “J,” ended up inviting himself along, which was fine at first. Then our other friend “K” canceled, which honestly disappointed me because the whole point was supposed to be celebrating together. The original restaurant had a 2 hour wait, so we ended up at another place instead. Then J invited a bunch of other people I didn’t know.
At that point, the night started feeling less like celebrating our accomplishments and more like hanging around with A’s friend group while everyone drank and socialized. My boyfriend went to another restaurant nearby while waiting for us, and I just sat there quietly for over an hour feeling uncomfortable and left out because I didn’t know anyone. I also have social anxiety and don’t go out much.
At one point my boyfriend mentioned that tacos at the other restaurant were 3 for $8, and one of the girls there (“C”) responded with “that’s so expensive… mmm white people.” I know it may have been intended as a joke, but it made me uncomfortable, especially because I was the only white person there and I already felt out of place.
About 20 minutes before leaving, I had already told A that I kind of wanted to go home. Later I said again that I was uncomfortable and wanted to leave. A responded with “well you’re my ride,” and I reminded her that we had already discussed having multiple rides available. She acknowledged that.
Then C jumped into the conversation, started laughing/rolling her eyes at me, and said “yeah what about A?” even though I wasn’t talking to her at all. I explained that I was uncomfortable because this wasn’t really the night I expected and I felt awkward sitting around strangers while our actual celebration plans fell apart.
A kept asking exactly why I was uncomfortable, but honestly that made me more uncomfortable because I didn’t want to sit there and publicly call anyone out in front of the whole group. Eventually A told me she had another ride and that I was free to go, so I left.
Now I feel guilty and I’m wondering if I overreacted or handled this poorly. Was I wrong for leaving instead of just staying there uncomfortable so everyone else could continue hanging out?