My roommate and best friend of 3 years is moving and I never want to see her again
I have a "best friend" that I met about 3 years ago, have been friends with her for 3 years, and lived with her for about 2 and half years. Things had mostly been going well, or at least, I thought they were at the time, but looking back there were things that she was doing I should have called her out for.
This friend and I were so close I basically considered her my sister. She had basically been welcomed as a friend of the family, and that got to the point my mom thought of her as a second daughter. Like, when someone in my friend's family died, I went to the funeral and my mom took us to the store to get her nice funeral clothes, even my grandma who doesn't know my friend well gave her a blanket. This girl was always calling me her bestie. That's how close we were.
Then my friend got a boyfriend, and things changed. Now, her getting a boyfriend wasn't bad at first: she talked a lot on the phone with him, and wasn't spending time with me like we used to, but it was understandable though, her boyfriend lives in another country in a different timezone, so she was trying to talk to him when she could.
Then, she was home. All the time. And she'd be in the living room all day talking to him and watching TV. I found this weird, but figured she was taking some vacation time off. Nope. This went on for a few months, and then she told me she took a leave of absence so she could pack all her things up to move with her boyfriend to a different country. She didn't pack. She just spent her time sleeping, talking with her boyfriend, and playing Mindcraft.
Then I got fired from my job. This was devastating to me in a lot of ways, of course. I came home and my friend was sympathetic when I came home early and told her what happened.
The day after I got fired, my friend decided she wanted to to terminate our lease early. So, we went and did that. Thank god my family were kind enough to let me stay with them and move in: I'd be completely fucked if they hadn't.
After this, my friend has stopped treating me like a friend. Now I'm a nuisance and an intruder. When I text her about what's going on she ignores me, when I talk to her in person she's seems annoyed I'm even speaking to her.
So now, I'm struggling to find a job AND trying to move my things and get our apartment ready by our move out date. With some help from my mom and movers we hired, I got all my stuff out, and my room is pretty much clean. My friend, on the other hand, STILL has a bunch of her shit in the apartment, and her room and bathroom was a disgusting mess. Want to guess who cleaned her bathroom and bedroom up? Not her! Me and my mom did.
It was absolutely disgusting: black nastiness all over the toilet, several caked on layers of grime in the sink, shower filled with hair and mold, hair dye stains everywhere that aren't coming out, burn marks on the window sill from candles that she had apparently been burning. I had paid the damage deposit when we moved in, and I know there's no way I'll get that back now. I'm just pissed. Not only am I busting my behind to clean her mess, but so is my mom.
My mom is physically disabled, and I feel really guilty that she's helping me with all this because these disabilities can be painful for her. My friend hasn't lifted a damn finger to help us with cleaning. Hell, I've done the dishes every time since she decided she was moving, and I don't even live there anymore and those dishes aren't mine.
We are only days away from our move out date and my friend said she'd get all her stuff this weekend, but the weekend has passed and a bunch of her furniture is still there. We're going to have to hire people to move her shit for her, and I'm paying for that, and she's paying like 50 bucks for part of it.
We had been texting back and forth yesterday, then I mentioned she needed to clear her stuff by Wednesday so we had a few days to clean and then she ghosted me and still hasn't texted me back.
Looking back, there were signs of this. My friend was always leaving trash all over the living room and would let me clean it. I'd ask for help with the dishes and she'd get annoyed at me. I was always putting her laundry in the dryer for her even when I was doing my laundry. I was paying our renters insurance, electric bill, and our internet bill and she wasn't even paying me back for half the rent.
I'm so tired. I just want this to be over, I want her out of my life. I'm so done with this "friendship" if it can even be called that at this point.