I frequent this sub on another one of my accounts to give gift suggestions and have gotten help before and you all are amazing so I hope you can help me out with this tricky one.
Stepmom traits/interests:
-Age: early 60s
-Has 3 grandkids (one of which is a baby she is helping to take care of- none of these are my kids)
-still working(works from home)
-enjoys reading, watching tv, watching Instagram reels, spending time with grandkids
-seems to enjoy jewelry because she wears it often
-does board games with grandkids sometimes and puzzles with my dad
-has a lot of clothes and shoes and enjoys shopping
-enjoys travel (but has no large trips planned currently, does take trips 6 or so hours away every few months by car)
-goes back and forth between living at home and living with daughter(to help with the baby- so is sort of living out of a suitcase but I imagine due to the baby age, that may end soon)
-likes plants, gardening (or at least seems to work in the yard a lot so she must like it)
-has no pets currently but likes cats
-deals with chronic pain/migraines
-rides an exercise bike and is into supplements
-likes windchimes
Gifts given in the past(no idea if she has liked any of them bc they were all dropped off with my dad due her and I’s strained relationship).
-necklace with the grandkids birthstones
-plant/small tree
-tea and snack gift basket
-wind chime
-dutch oven
-aura photo frame
-handmade Christmas ornaments(Christmas gift, not Mother’s Day)
-renpho eye massage goggle things for migraines
-puzzles
-local business cookie delivery
-another wind chime
-necklace that has a special symbol on it (symbol has meaning to her)
-another plant
My dad tells me not to spend my money (I’m on SSI/SSDI so my budget is a bit tight) but I’m not gonna get him a Father’s Day gift and a birthday gift (his bday is near Father’s Day) and then not get her something. She can continue to dislike me but I would rather just sort of continue to keep being kind. My mom thinks I should just put less effort/money in than I have in the past, she may be right.
Budget: I have 4 parents and I’m not working since I’m disabled so I try to keep Mother’s Day/Father’s Day to $50-$80 per person. This year money is tight though so I would like to stay to $50 as my max. For my stepmom though, maybe I could go less considering she probably won’t care about the gift anyway? Any help is appreciated. Thank you