Nobody really understands that feeling lost is a symptom, not a lack of direction.

People think the solution is to “find their path”, but that’s usually just putting a bandage over the actual wound.

Most people spend their whole lives trying to find the perfect bandage:
the right career,
the right relationship,
the right purpose,

But the feeling of being lost is actually pointing towards a belief that you NEED:
• direction
• progression
• a destination

And when something feels NEEDed, your system treats the absence of it like a threat.

This is what causes the underlaying 😬😬😬 feeling. This is the ‘wound’.

But why is it threatening?

Because somewhere underneath it all is a belief that it’s not okay to be where you are, as you are.

Which is a bit of a problem considering you literally cannot be anywhere else. 😂

So now your system is in resistance with its reality.

It’s trying to escape the present moment psychologically, while physically being trapped in it.

That’s why it feels so horrible and tangled internally.

The suffering isn’t really coming from not having a direction.

It’s coming from being in conflict with your current reality.

So the actual way out of feeling lost isn’t necessarily:
“Find the perfect path.”

Its about questioning:
“Is it absolutely true that I’m not okay, not good enough, not acceptable, not loved, not safe unless I’m making progress or have a path?”

When that belief starts falling apart, the resistance starts fading too.

And when the resistance fades, a lot of the suffering goes with it.

Hi everyone,

I spent the last 5 years trying all of the things that are recommended that we do when we feel meaningless or purposeless, aka:

• Become an Entrepreneur
• Get a more meaningful job
• Finding your Purpose (Find your WHY)
• Read Philosophy
• Study Psychology
• Travel
• Martial Arts
• Hobbies
• Do charity work / give back
• Get coaching
• Do Therapy
• Breath-work
• Meditation
• Yoga
• Spirituality

If you're looking for meaning and purpose they do not work (if they do, very slowly and unreliably). So please don't waste 5 years like I did.

This is what has actually worked to the extent that no matter what I do I am fulfilled everyday (yes, it is possible):

We seek meaning and purpose not because we are attracted to it but because we are trying to stop feeling empty / meaningless / worthless / lost.

>The plot twist I learnt is that these feelings are not normal, they aren't 'just the way you are', they are symptoms.

Seeking meaning and purpose whether through work or other means is a compensation, but it does not address the underlaying issue that is causing said symptoms. That is why, no matter what you do, the feeling never EVER goes away.

Through my 5 years and literal £1000s spent, I can tell you that the only way out is to inspect the validity of the beliefs that make you think that just being as you are isn't enough. Why unless you go and do x, y or z thing, you are worthless and don't have the right to be here. Why you need to compensate for your mere existence.

>No child is born in desperate need of meaning or purpose, they are born innately valuable and worthy of being here.

You are just an innately worthy child that ate enough food to get big enough to be classed as an adult.

You are still just as innately valuable, it's just that somewhere along the way you contracted the idea that you won't be okay, if you're just simply you, as you are.

And so the work is to question, "is this Absolutely true?" and "were all of the circumstances where I learnt this, just peoples opinions or Absolute facts?".

When you realise that all of these beliefs are just inaccurate conclusions, your body and mind has no reason to believe it is worthless and so your experience of life returns to feeling like "I'm okay to just be me, as I currently am".

You no longer feel meaningless, purposeless or unfulfilled because there is no false narrative inside you telling you that you should feel otherwise.

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I understand people need to eat and pay for shelter so a job is essential. But a job is simply a proxy for growing food and collecting firewood, thats literally all it is, everything else we feel about it is what we've been taught to feel about it.

I've got so much more to add to and say about this, this is just the beginning.

I'd love to do a workshop on this because I see so many people on here dealing with the same issues I did and I would love to help. If you have questions or would like me to run a group call on this, please DM me and I'll put something together.

Much love to you all, I wish you all the best 🙏☺️