Not being seen
I, 40yo trans woman and my wife share a bf. They both love and support me and “see me as a woman/gf/wife”. But do they? I feel like I’m still being seen as the man of the house. I do all the heavy lifting, all the outdoor chores, and a lot of the indoor chores, work a full time job and am the fixer of things. Kids toys, appliances, so on and so on. Bf, who is the youngest of the adults is unemployed due to a work injury that messed up his back. Wife and I work full time jobs. I am a disabled vet with messed up shoulders, elbows, back knees and ankles. Bf stays home with the baby(1). He loads the washer, dryer, vacuums the floor and does the dishes sometimes. Wife was home most of today with a migraine. Why did I just come home from an 8 hour shift and have to mow the lawn? When I bring this up I’m told that I’m overthinking this and “he does a lot around the house” and I’m just better at the outdoor chores. Don’t really feel like they see me as anything but a work horse. A male work horse at that.