Need help clarifying what a SAHM responsibilities are outside of kids
Burner account for reasons.
My wife and I have been married over a decade now. We have 3 kids, 13,12, almost 2. My wife doesn't drive. I travel for work currently. Immediately you can see part of where I am going. Before my last daughter was born, the last 6 years has been making me question everything. She would get the kids ready for school, then watch tv all day, and take a 2 hour nap before the bus brought them back, sometimes extending til dinner time. I would work all day and come home and have to make all the errands, all for her to say she hasn't even thought about dinner at all. For the first 10 years of our marriage, I worked 100% local (1000 hours overtime just to survive), did all of the grocery shopping, helped with the kids when I got home, took the kids doctors/appointments/girl scouts, 100% of the finances (she has never logged into our bank account, doesnt care). Fast forward to this new baby. We moved to a bigger house with the promises that we were going to be better about maintaining it. It's worse than ever. Wife goes to bed at 11, wakes up from 6-7 with the kids, gets them to school, then goes back to bed til 11am. I am lucky enough to own the business so i'm home almost every morning when not traveling, and while juggling customer calls and getting my employees straight on the job, I'm keeping the baby entertained and playing with her. I pretty much have to do my admin/owner duties post 11am when shes up and about.
That was all backstory. Right now, my house is a freakin madhouse. Dishes are piled the heck up all the time, laundry is neverending, we never have groceries. I stopped going out for groceries and have put it on her to order them delivery online. That backfired on me because now every day I go to the store at 5 to shop for something for dinner. I am just burnt out. I offered to have a maid service come in and clean and she refuses because she would be too embarrassed. AITAH??