u/Ambitious_Finger_264

Im sorry for this embarrassing post but idk who else to turn to.. of you dont want TMI then keep scrolling. Also English isn't my first language.

Does anyone else have had issues with sores on your vulva or intimate area? What do i do about this?? Do i need to contact my neurologist? I have rashes in my face and on my chest as well. Idk if this is a side effect from lamotrigin or something else, but a STD is not possible. (And i know it says online that sores in mouth and vag you should contact your doctor but its almost impossible to get in contact with them during summer.) It's almost like a cut and very painful. I first noticed irritation about two weeks ago, but not too bad. But yesterday when going to sleep, I moved my leg and got hit with intense burning. And it does look kinda like a mix between a cut and a rash. Sorry for the TMI. Any advice is greatly appreciated 🙏

First of all, sorry for the long post. My partner [33M] and I [28F], have been together for about 4 years. We have lived together for 2 years, and for the most part we have no issues. Things are great. But he is incapable of saying sorry when he is in the wrong. He gets very defensive and will say things like "well sorry im such an idiot that cant do nothing right!" Or "all you do is complain about me!". Idk why tho because im a very chill girlfriend, and we rarely have any arguments. But he is very blunt and will say things that hurt me, sometimes a lot, without caring at all about my feelings. He has no confidence in me at all like he doesn't think i can do anything. For instance, I used to be a boxer so I would work out 3 times a day and was in great shape. I haven't for a few years due to several injuries and yes I've gained some weight, but im starting to get into working out again. And the other day we were driving by the running trail I wanted to start running on and I said "I wonder if my shins will be able to handle the asphalt all the way" and he replied in the rudest manner "probably not". Idk how to explain it but it was almost like he was laughing. This really hurt my feelings and honestly made me cry for a bit. That was the final straw for me. In the past when I've asked him to apologize to me he has just waited it out and he knows I dont stay upset for too long. It's true, I have a hard time staying mad. But this time ive had enough. All I want is for him to give me a real, genuin apology and take accountability. It's been 4 days of silence. He is now mad and acting as if it is all my fault. And yesterday while in bed I asked him if he could actually sleep well knowing how much im hurting because of him and he replied "yes?" As if it was a stupid fucking question. This made me break down. Idk what to do. Any advice on what I can do to get him to apologize? I dont want to leave him but I feel like this could become a huge problem in the future.. i am currently looking at apartments online but idk if im overreacting. I feel disrespected, unappreciated and like im not even worthy of an apology.. i love him and his family soo much but is this something to leave him over? 💔

TLDR: My partner [33M] never apologizes to me for anything even though he really hurt me. Should I leave him over this?