I feel like a disappointment.
Hi Dads.
We’re all busy so I ll keep this short.
I feel like I constantly disappoint my wife even with my best effort put forward. Here are some examples.
I would wash the dishes, throw the trash, do the laundry, do general cleaning around the house and drop the kids off before heading to work.
I come home after work to find her completely exhausted and complaining that I don’t do enough. I suppress my thoughts and feelings so as to not make the situation worse and get busy doing what needs to be done (wash the dishes, bathe the kids, do the laundry (yes, we do laundry twice a day), and sweep/mop the floor.
I then spend time with the kids while she relaxes (at this point I have not eaten dinner and still wearing my work uniform).
Next morning, I prepare breakfast, get the kids ready, wash the dishes, throw the trash, do the laundry, etc….
Come home again and find her the same state. I suppress and try to brighten the mood but she’s not having it.
I never complain to my wife and always do what she asks without question and try my best to do even better. I remember things that need to be done and do them before it causes her stress. But yet…I feel like I have not done enough. We have two daughters that are mommy mommy all the time. So when I want to lessen the burden on her by taking one or both children away to play/walk they both throw a tanturm and my wife comes in super pissed that I have made things worse.
She says I don’t do enough but I am doing everything I can even to the point of me getting sick and still I got no sympathy. Only a comment of, “You’re sick again? All you do is get sick”. I m so tired of this negative energy and criticism. I get more stress being with her than I do when I m at work. Please help.