u/AmphibianOld5747

14 year old daughter lives in another state and has for the last 3 years. Her mother and I do not go through state for custody/child support arrangements. Her mother has never stuck to any sort of visitation schedule. My time has always been trampled on despite me paying consistently for the last 5 years. My daughter would get anxious leaving her mom (her mom left the state for two years when our daughter was only 4 and never came to visit her) so when we did live close by I still hardly saw my daughter. It’s been worse since she has moved. I barely know what’s going on in her life, her mother occasionally will fill me in briefly and my daughter rarely answers my phone calls and texts. I have no idea what to do. Any advice?

I have two children aged six and two. I homeschooled the six year old last year and she will be starting first grade this year. I’ve read the books and am totally on board with homeschooling being better for children. However there is one caveat and that’s money. I can’t work if I have to stay home with my kids. And it just has me weighing out what’s better. Is being at home with less money better than going to school and having more money? More money means more experiences and opportunities. Of course the downfall is everything that’s wrong with regular school. Is it better for kids to grow up with less money and be homeschooled? I think back to my schooling years and how most of that time was spent doing useless busy work and being bored. But does having money make up for that? If we could afford vacations, a nicer house, expensive hobbies, experiences, etc. would that make up for what public education lacks? I guess I’m just feeling jealous of people who have dual incomes and want to hear other opinions. It is late and I’m tired so I hope that is all coherent 🤣