Marriage help
So my husband 29 and I 26 have been together for almost 6 yrs!
We’ve had a rocky relationship because I ask for help and he can’t do it, I’m a stay at home mom and I occasionally ask him to tak th trash out or help with the kids we had together!
We recently broke up because it’s almost 6 yrs he keeps saying I’m changing I will!
No he’s not so we are not together separated but still trying to fix it id say it was like the same as when we were together still talking, saying babe out of habit i would fix it time to time to his name an we still live together because it’s easier for the kids care right now and im also saving up so i can move out
But recently I asked him who was in his work group chat he said it was him and the 3 guys, 1 female that is family and then just other people he don’t know!
So then time goes on I ask him again and he says the same people but also goes to name 4 other girls that are in it and he says yea we talk so what I didn’t tell you because of this your reaction
I tell him my reaction now is because he lied if he knew they th first time why hide them like wtf.
I tell him so what are you talking to them more than friends or what
He answers “what does it matter we’re not together”
I was appalled because yes we are split but not to move on to hopefully push him to change.
I tell him he’s cheating a talking to other girls while this is suppose to be time were we are fixing us!
He says he’s not doing anything at all not talking to anyone or does he want to. He said it out of anger
Like great cause trust issues..
So time goes again I sweep it under the rug
So his friend came over and was telling him he heard a story of my “husband” talking shi to someone from Jessica and Jacob
I was cooking so I went back in side and he came in shortly after I asked who Jessica was?
He said they don’t work with a Jessica, no one works there named that, that his friend didn’t say that name only Jacob
I told him yes he did say it and who is she?
He stood his ground on the no one works there named that!
So later that night I ask for his phone for the flashlight.. I went through his phone
Only to fucking find Jessica in the work group chat…
I asked him to the kitchen I said “ you sure you don’t work with a Jessica” he “said ya no one works there name that”
I bring up the message he reads it and goes
“Oh ya there is a Jessica that works on the other side of the plant
I said so who is she why are hiding her! He said I’m not she just didnt come to mind I forgot she worked there an I don’t know her anyway I have never seen her or taken anything to her!
I don’t believe him because of the previous things.
Like what am I supposed to think of that?
Like he’s cheating?
He’s never done anything I have never questioned him fr other than just be being insecure in the beginning from a bad previous relationship but he showed me I didn’t need to worry of that
But now this shit is weird like idk
Tl;dr some input on this situation real help please idk what to think what to do whether to believe he’s actually messing around or not! Please and thank you