u/Angela2208

We see a lot of single men, sometimes married men, starting a conversation like this, mentioning a kink, or a fetish, or a preference, or a fantasy.

IT IS A TURN OFF. Even “Hey” will get you further. A genuine compliment will open more doors.

Also, depending on what you mention, it will either scream “STD”, or “Weirdo”, or “Immature”, or “Small penis”, or “Inexperienced”, or “Awkward”, or “Bad ED”.

Some of those questions can be asked in person once you have established a rapport (for example, you played with a lady, and afterwards when everything went well you ask “have you ever done a DVP?”; that can work). Some of those questions are answered in profiles, you have to read them. They are not bad questions, there is just a time and a place to ask them.

Here is a recent example: Jon was talking to a single man online and invited him to our last party. Then the guy said “I can bring a friend and tie her up in front of everyone on the patio. We put on a great show”. Jon was like: “thanks, but no thanks; the patio layout would probably not allow it comfortably” (he really meant: no! I don’t know you”. The guy: “We can do it in the living room then”. Jon: “it is a bit small”. Guy: “well, maybe in the kitchen?”. Jon ended the conversation and disinvited him from the party.

How do you react to those questions? Ignore? Respond if the SM is hot? Fuck with them? Block?

The things we often hear from newbies and that are almost never true:
- “She doesn’t like oral”
- “He can last forever”
- “She never cums except with me”
- “He only cums jerking off”
- “She loves women”
- “He does not get turned on by men”
- “We are looking for friends first”
- “She doesn’t like anal”
- “He doesn’t like butthole play”
- “She cannot squirt”

Would you like to add to the list?

It took me a while to get to last Thursday’s podcast from Dan and Lacy, but I finally did and I did not regret it. I have to say that I am tickled pink.

In this very entertaining episode, Lacy discovers a universal truth: if you give your man the sexual gratification he has been looking for for a while, he will do whatever you want. In Dan’s case, it is anal sex and cumming inside Lacy’s butthole. Lacy, next time you do it on land and not at sea, make sure you are close to a Louis Vuitton store.

In this episode, I could not agree more with their take. The answer is: I like you. We even bought tickets to come see you when you took Colette’s over in Dallas but got sick and could not go. I appreciate what you do for the lifestyle in general.

Below is what they said:

“shout out to Angela on Reddit.
We can never figure out if she hates us or if she likes us.
She flip flops.
She flip flops, which I think I like that because she's neutral.
I guess she's honest, sometimes brutally.
This was her response. As the week went on, this was playing in my head. I don't think there's ever been a more honest review of our podcast.
It's like three sentences. Listen, it says, Swing Nation, Lacy goes to secrets, complains about the drive, doesn't take her meds, eats at the Italian restaurant next door, gets drunk again, films some TikToks, a couple who helped her with her luggage, complains there's not enough time for orgies when Dan DJs. Is there a pattern here?
Isn't that perfect?
Yeah. What is the pattern? You getting drunk or?
Well, the pattern is-
You getting drunk and complaining?
And forgetting my medicine. I always complain about it. So anyway, yes, Angela, you summed it up.

The address is only communicated once you RSVP. Check them out on SDC or similar websites.

It looks like they have a pool!

The question is this: you invite friends over to have sex after dinner around 8 pm. You know them well, you played with them before several times, you are totally compatible. Do you prefer to invite them on Friday or Saturday?

About Friday:
- you may be tired from the week,
- they might be late because of traffic or finishing work late,
- you only have 2 hours to get ready, tidy up the house, clean.
But:
- it is a good start for the weekend that will make your husband happy and he will do whatever you want the whole weekend,
- if you drink too much, you have Saturday and Sunday to recover,
- your guests will not stay as late as on Friday as they would on Saturday,
- they will most likely not have done anything lifestyle the night before, so they will be good to go and will not cancel,
- if they cancel, you can still go out on Saturday.

So we like Fridays.

Except on Friday they stayed super late, wanted a second round on the patio, they exhausted us, we were super hungover on Saturday morning, and on Saturday afternoon our friendly neighbors invaded our pool and backyard with their kids, the friends of their kids, their two massive labs, their cat, we got drunk again on Espresso martinis and wine, and we had to cancel Mother’s Day lunch today because we just cannot move without hurting.

Happy Mother’s Day!

So Friday or Saturday? Don’t say both, because then you are way fitter or younger than us and it is not fair.

Bang Bang Pineapple Gang (Episode 108, April 21): The Sexy Vee and Jay go to Exxxotica Chicago, get all excited to meet a porn star (Cheerleader Kait), finally have a collab partner that doesn’t cancel and fucks her upside down and standing up, complain about the breakfast but have another collab with a sexy woman right after a bad omelet and a screwed up French toast. Production quality is good; This episode was more about OF than swinging and his nervous caveman laugh is annoying but overall this podcast is fairly entertaining. Rating: ***

Down and Dirty: who are these guys? Elementary school drop outs? Primates? I listened for 18 minutes, after which I could not stand their level of immaturity and stupidity anymore. Worst podcast ever. Rating: -

Pineapples after dark (episode 80): Davy and Lauren are talking about going to an Atlanta party organized by Swing Nation. This is an uninteresting, unstructured conversation by two people who can’t hang. You can forget about that podcast that is neither entertaining nor enlightening. 80 episodes of that? Seriously? Rating: -

Secret life of swingers (new)(May 3)(episode 16): Brooke and Lola talk about consent. They seem to know what they are talking about but it is like milking a flea with boxing gloves on: it takes time for little result. And what if the consent is not real? And what if you change your mind? And what if consent is not verbal? And how can you tell? All not bad questions, but anyone who has been doing this for a long time knows how it really works. Rating: *

Sex is Good, by Shameless Care - Robert and Anna talk about the science of sex and more specifically STDs. 81 episodes. This is not uninteresting but there is only so much I want to listen to STD-related stuff. Their instagram is pretty good though. On the podcast with his tone of voice you feel like this guy keeps his labcoat on when he plays. His wife is way more fun, and easy on the eyes. Rating: *

I updated my podcast list from 8 days ago to reflect these reviews. https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/s/QIx2hb8L5M

Swing Nation (on 4/30): I enjoyed that one. Good tips to organize a room crawl (using QR codes to vote on the best room), on how to organize an orgy, on how to make everyone participate and talk to each other, and spontaneous sex vs. scheduled sex (I will let you guess which method works better). Very well produced. Maybe what I liked most is that they took into account what their guests said in their post-party surveys. Most podcasters do not take criticism well, but they do. Rating: *****

By the Bi (episode 446, 4/29): Angela and Brad examine the different types of relationship styles. You take a stupid test to.then realize that because there are 16 different relationship styles you are not compatible with your spouse… Super boring. If that topic is of any interest to you, read the transcript. Rating: **

Hot Couple Chronicles (4/29. Season 4 episode 2): first, it is not a couple, just a gay-sounding guy wondering with a buddy why he gets rejected, cannot get it up and doesn’t share his blue pills. Winner of most boring discussion ever. Rating: -

Your Neighbors are Swingers (April 2026: Sexual bucket list part 1 &2): Kate prefer quality over quantity, and not surprisingly, her husband prefers quantity. Two Canadians walk into bar, disagree on how many people you need in an orgy, pick up a Brit, and discuss a high-school level bucket list. Rating: •

Within the Pineapple (March 4): Paul & David interview a couple that is more poly than swinging, and it is not uninteresting because it kind of covers the whole ENM spectrum. Charlie has a really funny definition of swinging: « ugly old man with pretty wife looking for similar couple to swap wives ». Not completely untrue. I enjoyed that conversation. Rating: ***

We hosted a large pool party at home last night, and here are a few things we typically do on following Sunday. First guests arrived around 2 pm, last ones left at 1 am, maybe 75-80 in total.

1. Figure out who came and who did not. It is surprisingly difficult because some leave after a few hours. Some go play upstairs the whole time and just come down to rehydrate. The hosts are busy cooking, entertaining, fixing problems, playing a bit, so we cannot talk to or even see everyone.

2. Enquire about the health of people who had an issue at the party. This one lady said to Jon « I want to play with you when you are done grilling », and the next time we saw her she was being carried out to her husband’s truck by half-naked guests as she had underestimated the potence of her new gummies.

3. Post a lost and found list on the FB event. This time we had shoes, clothes, earrings, yeti cups. I guess some people went home bare feet or half naked.

4. Inspect the streets around the house. There were cars parked around the block and beyond. Usually we collect four or five drinks cans and sometimes an item of clothing. Gotta keep the neighborhood clean!

5. Respond to thank you messages in a non-creepy way. The first thing Jon wants to reply is always something like « We gotta play next time» or « I enjoyed your vagina », but it is usually better to say something neutral like « It was great to see you both »

6. Answer odd requests, like « what’s your recipe for (blank)? » or « can you give my phone number to that guy with the big dick ». Like: which one, given that’s our main criteria to select single guests!

7. Figure out riddles left by guests: how did a kids toys trunk end up in the middle of the game room? Why did the shower door come off its rail? Why are there five towels on the floor on the landing? The answer is always the same: because people played there!

And of course, we immediately set the date for the next one!

It is pretty simple: you have a pre-party orgy the night before. You make sure everyone is sexually compatible, you order meat lover pizza, you get into the hot tub to get in the mood, and you play at least 2 rounds on one bed. The ideal number is 6 IME (8 or more don’t fit easily on a king size bed unless all the men play standing up).

That way, whatever play happens at your own party is a bonus. You can concentrate on making sure your guests talk to each other and that there is nobody left out.

That said, we have never not played at our own parties!

(Warning: long and only mildly funny)(most questions were actually asked)

Answer: “I am answering questions about our upcoming pool party”.

What kind of questions? Here you go:

- can I bring Joe and Jane? => idk, what’s their SDC profile? Have they been validated by human beings?

- can I bring Jim and Jill? => oh yeah, I know them, I don’t think she likes me but yes, sure.

- I got a divorce and now I can come on my own but can I bring Jeff my FWB? => he is an asshole, but yes, fine.

- can I bring some food? => sure, chocolate cookies. Good ones. You know, from a store that doesn’t start with W or K?

- have you looked at Joe and Jane’s profile yet? => yeah, I actually have them already blocked for some reason. So no, they cannot come.

- is it ok if they are homemade? => sure, I am the proud owner of a large trash can.

- we are not coming anymore but can Jim and Jill still come? => (sigh) sure…

- will you fuck me? Jeff would like to watch => sure. I have an opening at 7:15 pm until 7:35 pm.

- what’s the weather going to be like? => we are expecting 100 people, so hot! Or, as usual with our luck, cold and rainy as fuck in May!

- why did you block Joe and Jane’s profile? => I do not remember, but I trust my own judgement. Final Answer. Do not pass Go.

- hey, this is Jim and Jill, we are not coming since our friends are not going to be there, but can we come next time? => sure (but really, no, that was your one and only chance)

- how large is your trash can? => bring 200 cookies, they will fit in.

- can I help you cook the burgers? => no, you gotta be licensed for that in North Texas. You can suck my dick whilst I am doing it though.

The party has not even started and Jon is already exhausted… patient and polite, but exhausted!

Swing Nation (last Thursday): Lacy goes to Secrets, complains about the drive, doesn’t take her meds, eats at the Italian restaurant next door, gets drunk again, films some TikToks, fucks a couple who helped her with her luggage, and complains there is not enough time for orgies when Dan DJs. Is there a pattern here?

The impulsive duo (4/20): they go to the new(ish) club in SLC, The Sanctuary, and really liked it. Candice wants an orgy but is too shy to ask the men laying in the orgy bed to fuck her, gets jealous as Eric fucks another woman, complains about her mom bod, wants to visit the club again but this time without fucking anyone, when exactly 60 seconds before her husband said « next time we should fuck everyone ». That show is almost unbearable to listen to because of how fast this woman talks, and that high-pitch-pretending-to-be-a-cute-little-girl voice is so annoying…. And then Eric just grunts in response…. But it might speak to a lot of couples: this woman is actually very pretty (on the lifestyle beauty scale, 10/10), very tall, very insecure, has been in the lifestyle for 5 years but still can’t read a situation at the club, her husband is like a bull in a china shop and has 0.1 clue (not completely zero, but not a lot) about how his wife feels. She actually towards the end kinda tells him what would work for her: new boobs and tall men. Hopefully her ape-sounding husband will read this as they mention Reddit on their podcast.

Front Page Swingers (yesterday): Brenna reads a « carefully » worded email from a single male, Brian promotes his next event, would like to organize a trip with 5-6 couples where everyone fucks everyone, brags about fucking strippers to get parties with politicians started. Since they still don’t know what they want from the lifestyle, nothing will happen. It doesn’t sound like they played with anyone for a long time.

Vanilla Swingers (4/19 episode 50): Leo and Kat talk about their misery coming out from both ends, had an MFFF where the two additional Fs could not give an F about them so never again… These guys are a lot, kinda crazy, but reasonably entertaining (just don’t be jealous of how many unicorns they play with).

Evan Swings (4/25): he reads a letter from a listener, tries to fuck a coworker, complains about getting older. Yawn.

FWAT (4/20: lifestyle evolution): happy and entertaining as usual.

Two plus Two (4/22): Zack and Josie talk over each other for an hour, I fell asleep.