Husband is at BCT and I think he is deliberately withholding money from me and our infant son
I’m only guessing but maybe you guys can help me with what you think. Everyone close to us agrees with me but I love giving the benefit of the doubt especially for those I love.
Starting out he told me they didn’t accept chime for direct deposit and had to create a synovus account. I was curious if that was true since we have a shared account with chime. I got a weird feeling in my stomach then but was like nah, he’s never had a history of doing stuff like that hence the shared account.
Around Easter he called me and thought we were in a financial crisis. I told him we aren’t but we will be soon and it’s better to link the accounts. He said he would wait until then and I told him it was fine since we still had money then but I didn’t know they only get 1 call per phase at that time.
Fast forward to the 13th of April, and they called again. It was because everyone was having financial issues. I told him to link the accounts on chime and he logged into chime cause I was notified he did but he didn’t link them. He spent the whole telling me how hard it is and I got sidetracked. It wasn’t until after I noticed he didn’t. I was close to financially struggling.
I sent a letter before Mother’s Day saying we were out of money and my only option was to leave to California with my mom and get a job. I was going to miss his graduation but I didn’t know what else to do for our 7 mo old. He called me on Mother’s Day and said he told his DS and would fix it the following Wednesday. Well I got an email he logged into mypay on Monday the 11th. No letter or anything letting me know what happened and no money either. Ever since then he has yet to send a letter. I’ve been in limbo with no money. I’m waiting because I don’t want to just dip out on his graduation. And thankfully my mom is helping me to make that happen.
But in the back of my mind I feel like it was deliberate and I’m giving him waaay too much benefit of the doubt. Everyone in our social circle thinks so but again he’s never done anything quite like this. He tells me he loves me and to wait but doesn’t help to make it happen. What do you think? Am I overreacting or under reacting?