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Im about to go to the lake soon and my husband is at Navy bootcamp right now, can I send bikini pics or are those to explicit

Hi everyone! 😊 I'll be visiting my sailor at A School for about a month, and I have a question.

My husband is an **AS** at **NATTC Pensacola**, but he hasn't started class yet.

Has anyone had experience with **live ashore**? Is it possible for him to stay with me while I'm visiting, either before he starts class or during A School? I'd love to hear from anyone who's been in a similar situation or knows how it works.

Thanks so much in advance! 💙

Throwaway because they don’t know yet. I’m going through a divorce and my attorney obtained multiple chat logs involving my spouse and multiple people in the Army. Everything from regular messages to WhatsApp, Signal, Snap, you name it, it’s there. I don't know how Army commands work or what the right things is, so I’m trying to make sure I don’t do something wrong.

Am I allowed to bring those chat logs to my spouse’s command during the divorce, or should I wait until after everything is finalized? I’m also worried about whether there could be legal or privacy issues with sharing them, even though my attorney got them. Any advice from people who know Army procedures, JAG, or have dealt with something similar would really help.

Anyway, I’ll take a triple cheeseburger meal with a small Diet Coke.

So I have been dating this guy for 2 months and he’s in the army and currently stationed about an hour and a half away from where I live. About a month into dating he was sent off for a month overseas and he just came back. Before he had to be shipped out he told me of his plans for taking leave to go see his family back in his home state about a week or so after he gets back (depending on when he got back).

While he was gone for the month we didn’t have a ton of communication because of the time difference and he and I just both being busy with work (obviously him with the army stuff and me being in the funeral service industry). When we were able to talk everything was great and we click really well together.

Yes I had some insecurities with him being gone but I never was upset with him and we always were able to talk through them when we did get to talk. And it was mostly just worries about his safety which is valid. I genuinely started falling and I’m still falling for him hard now even with the current news that I need advice on.

So months before we met and started talking/dating he had applied for an MOS change that is his dream job while being in the army. The job has him going all over, internationally to embassies for months at a time and with him being able to speak multiple languages he was pretty much a shoe in to get it but he didn’t hear anything back for a while and kinda forgot he put in the application for it.

Well he got the offer for the job he applied for the day after he got back from this last ship-out and he agreed with no hesitation. I don’t feel entitled by any means that he needed to talk with me about the decision seeing as it’s his life and his career (dream job at that). And I’ve never been the type to try and hold anyone back from what they want to do for the betterment of themselves or be like “oh well maybe you shouldn’t because what about us”. Again 2 months of dating.

Also I want to point out that Im insanely proud of him and really excited for him to have this opportunity. Genuinely I’m happy he’s being recognized for his merit and abilities and I couldn’t be more excited for him to get to do his dream job.

The job he accepted (which basically went: applied, was sent offer, said hell yes) is starting immediately after he gets back from leave after seeing his family and he will be sent to shadow the person he is taking the position over from for about a year and while shadowing he won’t be available to be on his phone for “security reasons” for most days of the week and will be exhausted on the days he does have free.

With my job in the funeral home I’m on call almost 24/7 and I’m not able to be on my phone all that often either but for different reasons obviously. I don’t feel the need to text or call every single day because I also just need to relax when I get done and am at home. Plus when he was gone this past month I had started keeping a journal that let me talk about my day and “ask him questions” when we weren’t actually able to call or text. And this helped a lot with feeling connected to him even when we couldn’t text/call.

So I feel like I could be alright doing the long distance thing. But when we talked about it he had said he hasn’t seen it work out for anyone but is willing to try long distance with me because he does genuinely like me and wants me to be happy.

I’ve also asked my mom about it (because she is the most logical level headed person I know) and reminded me that with my job always keeping me busy and him always being busy as well it could work if we can still manage to talk even if it’s just for a few sentences a week. Plus she reminded me that I could always try to plan a vacation out to where he would be since I have a passport and go sightseeing and try to at least grab dinner or something with him to see him in person if I absolutely needed to.

I just need advice on how to go about it and with the limited contact we would be having for months how do we continue to reassure each other that we are still trying and can make it work. Yes I’m going to miss him being here when we had planned all of these things to do with him being back in the state but I’m not naive enough to expect him to still try to spend as much time with me as possible when he’s getting everything ready for his move. Especially since he is talking with me as much as possible still and we act as though nothing has changed.

So if anyone has any advice I would really really appreciate it!

So I live in Japan, but I'm only here for my military service but I only use an iPad to watch TV. Which uses a VqN so I can watch TV from back home. So I was wondering , is there any way for me to watch tv from home using peacock , or do I just have to get rid of my service? I also wanna point out that even without the VqN I still can't watch TV because I live in japan

My mother would always introduce me to people as “my son - the Marine.” I would correct her “I’m her son the NASA Astrophysicist.” IN PRIVATE - I’d ask “It means nothing to you that I went to eight years of college post-Marine Corps and work as a Gov’t Astrophysicist? You know - Einstein type stuff?” She would explain how proud she was of my work, etc… I was making a big deal of nothing. But I hated the Marine Corps and counted every day until my separation interview. Upon seeing my enthusiasm when I received my pink veteran ID the attending Warrant Officer said “That and a dollar will get you a cup of coffee.” I replied “and a delicious cup of joe it will be, Sir.”

After I retired - ten years after my mother died - I was throwing away all my Marine Corps stuff. There were boxes of letters. I had forgotten that she and my grandmother wrote me diligently, every week. News about the Wisconsin weather. Dumb stuff. But they wrote. For them, writing letters to my father (WWII Paratrooper) was their war effort. In their minds - with a little social pressure from the Gov’t - they helped my father (and me) win the war and come home. IN THEIR MINDS YOUNG SOLDIERS AND MARINES SAVED THE WORLD FROM FASCISM.

As a 63-year old retiree I realized their letter writing was something they participated in and remembered. My college and professional life was something I achieved without them. And my leaving Wisconsin was the last thing they wanted. To Betty Ann, I will always be her son - the Marine.

EDIT: breaking up was an overreaction im more just rethinking!!!

hey everyone on here ! im (18F) not sure if this is the right place to go or if im allowed to be saying something like this on here, but i am very leftist. i do not support the government and the state of this country right now, and so with that its hard to support the military knowing theyre fighting under this regime. My boyfriend (18M) is currently in basic training, he also shares left political views with me but calls himself independent. he signed his contract when he was 17 and part of it was to get away from his terrible parents, before he left for training he started saying he honestly doesnt wanna do it but obviously cant get out of it now. i love him and want to support him but its difficult when his job and career is the opposite of what i stand for… its causing me to think about breaking up, has anyone had this issue and how to cope?

I moved to base for my husband who’s been here for four years. We have on base housing, and it’s been almost three months. Soon he’ll leave for a couple months, and I’m gonna be home alone. The last time I was home alone, it was only a week but it made me feel like I was insane. I am struggling to make friends, go out, and do things because we share a vehicle. I’m extremely lonely. I’ve been wanting a dog to have a companion, routine, and have a reason to get out more. He said that even though he wants one, we’re not getting one right now. He’s had dogs pass away and other awful things happen during deployment, and he doesn’t know if having a dog while active duty will work for us. I’m devastated. We both love dogs, it works for our budget. I’d only want one. I’ve seen so many at the shelter that are adorable, good canidates, but I just can’t bring myself to explain to him the why. Why I’m so goddamn lonely. I get out of the house everyday, I work on my goals, try to find work, and I have plenty of time to do hobbies, but even when I am able to get out to socialize, it’s not enough. I’m extremely lonely, and a part of me is afraid to vocalize it. I had dogs when living with family, and he has too, but I struggle to explain why I want one so badly. It makes me feel awful. We started setting up a small aquarium as I also wanted fish. I’m crying now and I feel like I can’t tell him why, because I feel like it’s a stupid reason to cry.

I’m (19f) my boyfriend is (19m) he is currently at navy BMT. We’ve done long distance before for 4 months my last semester of college. But ofc the military gets significantly less communication, and I hate it. Basic sucks, I know A-School will be better, but then comes deployments and those suck even worse. He has a five year contact, does that begin after all the schooling is over? I just hate the long distance it’s sm worse. I’m moving with him after he completes A-school, but if he gets on a ship (which I know is very likely) we will still barely be able to talk. I’m willing to do these 5 years because I love him. I’ll be in school the entire 5 years basically, i have a year left of college and then 3 years of law school. I don’t want to tell him that I wouldn’t want him to do another contract once he gets out cause it’s selfish, but I can’t do another contract. I hate it. He also wants kids, but I’m not gonna do it until after he finishes cause I’m not doing the whole solo parenting thing. How do I even go about telling him? I don’t want to discourage him or anything cause he’s still in basic. I love him, but I hate the military.

Hey everyone! My husband’s commander has reached out to me asking me to be the squadrons key spouse. I am debating back and forth on it. I have a full time job, kids, and my husband is currently deployed. Is it really time consuming or is it fun and actually worth it?

Reported the incidents to local law enforcement. I have pictures of my injuries and witnesses and a restraining order has been served. Will the marine corps do anything or is it just on the civilian side?

My boyfriend is leaving for his first deployment very very soon. He will be gone for 9 months 🥹 when he was in bootcamp and ait, I visited my home country, and went to the dominican republic and mexico for missionary work! And I also moved out for college!
But this time, for his deployment, the waiting time will be longer. I know i'll probably mostly be busy with school, but what do y'all recommend me doing to pass the time and make my alone time as efficient as possible? I'm also thinking about taking a phlebotomy class to be certified (trying to work for the medical field).
I know last time someone here told me they got their master's while their husband was gone😭? That's insane kudos to them, anyways.
Let me know if anyone has any ideas! Thanks!

hi guys i need advice, badly. me and my bf have been together since before he left for basic, he just got to his duty station about a week ago. he told me he’s been disloyal, that he called another woman pretty and was hugging her saying he missed her and told me he’s wanted to kiss her, but realized he was fucking up and hurting me and has just been hating himself because of it. this was apparently a month an a half ago, i found out yesterday. he’s so willing to change and be better, he wants to be a better man and he is already showing ways that he is trying. i don’t know what the fuck to do. i feel like i can’t break up with him i love him more than anything in this world but i feel so disrespected. we are over 2000 miles away

I (18FTM) and my husband (19M) have been together for about a year now. He just left for weight loss camp about five days ago and in his limited phone access, he messaged me that his AIT was going to be much longer than we originally thought. We were told back in January that it would be about 3 months long, but now he’s been told he will spend 12 months in AIT (he is a medic). I have no real knowledge of the military and what is and isn’t allowed, I’m make my living in programming, so this has been making my brain work overtime.

I have type II bipolar disorder and I’ve struggled with a lot of attachment issues and dissociation throughout my life. This is the first time ever that I’ve gone this long without speaking with him on a consistent basis. It is difficult, and I know that’s something I’m going to have to get used to for the next two and a half months while he’s in basic. But… I have two main worries right now.

How much phone access will he have in AIT as a medic? I have a friend in the air force who told me they have some, but he isn’t quite sure how much. So I’m just wondering how often I will be able to talk with him during that time since it is going to be so long.

And… maybe I am just overthinking things and it’s part of my own insecurities coming through, but… when we write letters, will he be treated differently when they find out he’s gay…and that he’s married to a transgender man? I know that the officers read the letters before they’re sent out and whatever, but… with the state of the country right now, there’s so much negativity and bias… and I don’t know how I’d be able to cope if I was the reason he was treated poorly. I don’t know how many other people are in my situation, but any kind of advice is welcome. Discrimination will not be tolerated. It took a lot to come forward and say this.

Thank you.

I met this guys a month ago and he told me he wanted something serious. We went on a date and hooked up and went on another and hooked up again. He told me he liked me and I told him back.

Then he has been lagging for about two weeks. Keep in mind he told me he wanted something serious and I agreed to try. He tells me he’s on the field and went days without texting me. I texted him and called and he answered telling me that he was short listed and selected to be deployed and he hasn’t been feeling good.

Then he got went to the field for 4 days and he texted me on the second day bc I sent him one text each day. I haven’t texted for like 2 days and I’m getting anxious based of some comments of an acquaintance I have making some comments of not being able to be be no contact for so long.

I try to calm myself down bc for the dates we have gone one he’s drive an hour to see me and I have meaningful items of his. However he does tell me he’ll call me later and then I don’t hear from him. I decided to not text him bc I want to feel desired and not like I’m being for attention.

Sometimes I feel his lack of communication is him truly being busy and other times I worry that he is playing me.

Hey guys. My bf (19) and I (20) are navigating the life of a military relationship. We met this yr in March, got together in May, and he left for bootcamp in San Antonio TX on June 23rd. Ive done long distance before, with not a good person, which caused lots of betrayal and setbacks. I met this guy and its completely differnet and refreshing. I feel like im dating such a mature, emotionally intellectual man. Weve both came from heavy toxic relationships and since meeting one another, its been so refreshing to feel that there is good level minded people out there. Ive since met him family and friends and its so bittersweet. I unfortunately couldn't go to the graduation because the airforce limits tickets to just 6. So he graduates Aug 11, but i most likely wont see him till the very end of August. Maybe even longer.

Anyway, ofc Im going through the normal fear that he might grow distant during bootcamp or even tech school. He got public affairs for the airforce and we actually got really lucky with his tech school in forte mead considering we both live in MD. So he'll only be an hour from me for about 7 months. I start school in August as a pre- pa for derm route.

I guess what Im asking is for others whose been through the same thing. Im tired of hearing about all the negative about the infidelity during this and just want some advice. I know I need to keep myself busy, learn to grow by myself, and learn go be alone. Im so excited to be with someone i finally see a future with, and its mutual. I just hate waiting. I waited for nearly a year and a half in my other relationship and Im just so excited to move onto something better. But it seems to be teased in my face haha. This is the first time in my life where im forced to be alone. And I lowkey like it. Ive never not been alone so this 2.5-3 month timeframe of just seeing who I am is something I need. But still. Any and all advice is welcomed. I know the reality of this conversation.

Hello all,

My boyfriend and I are (soon to be) a military couple. He graduates from the U.S Army in August. I don’t ship out until October or November for the USAF. I’m worried that since he will be in AIT until December, he wont be able to attend my graduation. Will they allow him to take a week off to attend my graduation? I know they get paid leave for a certain amount of time.

hello!!

i got my first two letters from my partner today, but there’s no return address. is there any other way i can find an address to send my letters to her? i’ve been writing everyday she’s been gone and i don’t want her to think im not writing :,( thanks for the help!!!