What was ait like for your relationship?
hey I’m new here, me and my bf are both 21 & been together for 8 months now, we met b4 he joined. basic was hard (cause the letters ofc) but we did it. Saw him at graduation everything was perfect then I dropped him off at AIT 2 hours from me he’s been there for a month now.
What was the communication like?
He has his phone everyday (most of the day my messages don’t deliver) I know they don’t take his phone though. but we call maybe once a week and when we do he’s surrounded by other people so we barely get to actually talk. some days I only get a good night text or there was a weekend I got nothing at all. I don’t really know what he’s doing most of the time or who he’s with, try not to press him but it’s making me anxious af
I don’t know if I’m being naive and he has more free time than he lets on or if it’s just genuine stress.. He says that things are just a lot and he has no time/exhausted. He hasn’t rlly been active on social media either.
At the beginning of ait the communication wasn’t this bad. I feel like since he found out he’s going to be in Germany for 2 years he might be pulling back. It’s kinda making me feel crazy we barely talk but he insists to me that he wants to, and it’s hurting him too.
I’ve never experienced military relationships or even know anything about the military really so anything would help, I know everyone’s experience is different
I’ve been extremely understanding towards him and don’t know what to do at this point, I do really love this guy hes a great guy & has treated me better than anyone else but I’ve been super unhappy for like 2-3 weeks now. I do keep myself busy: friends, work, school hobies etc. but making me extremely anxious
Any experience or advice? plz be honest but kind, Im having a really rough time rn