Did anyone here wait until their partner was done with service to move in together/get married/have kids?
My boyfriend of a few years recently left for the Navy. We’re both in our early 20s and he left after college graduation. I’m currently getting my masters, with one year left, and specific requirements about living in my home state for a few years because of the field I am in. He is signed up (sorry if that’s not the right wording) for 6 years and has no intentions of extending the duration.
It hasn’t been very long since he left but having virtually no contact with him besides sending letters has been difficult. I have been looking through this subreddit and social media looking to relate to others but many of the people I see are married, with kids, or living on base. I personally do not want to get married while my partner is serving and I have no desire to move to base (and like I mentioned legally can’t leave my state for a couple years bcs of education reasons). If we were to have children I would not want to go through pregnancy worrying about deployments and raising children on my own on top of my career.
It just sounds so difficult to have to wait so long for such important milestones. Has anyone here waited, or deciding to wait, until their contract ends before taking these steps? Did you feel like that was a good decision? I’m very new to this type of relationship and I’m having a hard time adjusting. Thinking about the future keeps me hopeful but it’s also nerve wracking. I’m looking for any advice anyone is willing to give!