u/SpecialistSeesaw3621

Hi my fiance is currently in basic training and we want to get married when would be the best time to get married so that I'm put on his orders to move in with him at his first station. He's in the army and is active duty if that matters. We can get married rn via proxy wedding but I heard he has to ask his command for permission is that true? Can they legally stop us from not getting married? Should we wait until his graduation to get married before he goes to AIT? We feel so stupid we should have gotten married before he left for basic but we didn't think it was going to be this difficult to get married. I just want to be able to live together again. We have lived together for the last 6 years and have been together for almost 10 years